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It pains me to see those relationships that consist of one person who is domineering, and another who is a total pushover. My initial reaction is to pity the pushover but, I have to remember that, we’re all adults who make our own decisions. Nobody is forcing the pushover to be with a bossy partner. My other initial reaction is to demonize that person who is being domineering, but perhaps I should also remember to have some empathy for them—certainly events and pain in their lives caused them to be this way. Regardless of who is what way and why, there is no such thing as a healthy relationship in which a pushover exists. Being a pushover means not speaking up for your needs and desires, and being with a pushover means that you want someone who doesn’t stand up for himself. That’s a lose-lose. If you do date pushovers, this could be why.
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You don’t feel seen elsewhere
You are low on the rankings elsewhere in your life, like in your family or work. Perhaps you have the tricky spot of middle child in your family, and are often looked over. Perhaps you’re regularly passed up for promotions at work. You feel that you have no control elsewhere and so, you look for control in your relationship.
