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I got into meditation around five years ago. In fact, it was meditation that helped me realize and gracefully accept that the person I was with at the time was not right for me. I felt this incredibly warm, loving sensation when I meditated—like a nourishing light—and I somehow understood that I did not feel that way in my relationship, but I should. Meditating helped me out of a bad relationship, and to find my partner who I now live with and am over-the-moon happy with! Naturally, I wanted to introduce him to the powers of meditation, too. My boyfriend struggles with anxiety, and I knew it would be very good for him. Funny enough, when he first tried it, he complained he was, “Too anxious to meditate.” Ha. It’s a catch 22. But he finally tried it, and it changed everything for both of us. Here is how meditating can improve your relationship.

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We don’t sweat the little stuff

The fact that one of us always waits a little too long to clean our dishes, or that painting one insisted on hanging that the other doesn’t like…these issues seem so trivial after meditation. So we just don’t argue about them as much.

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We really feel the love

When you meditate, you can feel that warm, hugging light I mentioned in the intro. When you’re in a great relationship, you realize that that feeling is the same feeling you get from your partner. Getting it from meditation, and then from your partner, is a very uplifting, intense but positive experience. We can really feel our love for each other—almost touch it—after meditation.

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We’re more contemplative in our responses

We’re slower to respond—in a good way. We put more thought into our reactions to one another, and how we answer questions or comments. Everybody could benefit from that.

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We recognize what matters

Every time I meditate, I can’t help but laugh at how much importance I put on my career. Yes, it’s important. It’s an outlet of who I am and what I care about. But it is not the point of life. Relationships are. When my boyfriend and I meditate, we do a better job of prioritizing each other.

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We let tomorrow’s problems wait for tomorrow

You focus very much on the present after meditation. So my boyfriend and I won’t let discussions about, “What if this or that goes wrong in the future” ruin our day. Those topics can wait for the future. Who knows? Things may change, and we may not even need to have those discussions.

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We’re more easy-going

We’re both much more easy-going after meditation. Any restaurant is fine. Any movie is fine. This friend wants to join? No problem. We realize how lucky we are to get to eat at restaurants, go to movies, and have friends.

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We’re more grateful

More on that last point—we’re just more grateful. It’s amazing how gratitude changes everything. In fact, I once heard a sage say that our happiness is a direct result of how grateful we are for the things we have.

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We don’t lash out

Meditating daily helps bust my and my partner’s stress. When we feel less stressed, we lash out at one another less, too.

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We enforce boundaries

Other people are always going to need and want things from us. Our other relationships are always trying to encroach on this one, and take away from our special time together. We’re better at enforcing boundaries, and saying, “Other people can wait” after we meditate.

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We stay positive

Meditation makes us both much more positive. We have fewer instances of getting into those dark spirals where we both become cynical and sarcastic. Those never go anywhere good.

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We feel motivated

I do feel more motivated to pursue my dreams and goals after I meditate. When I do that, I’m happier as an individual, and when I’m happier as an individual, I’m a better partner.

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We work out issues

Meditation can help you access and work through some traumas and old stuff that has been influencing your behavior—particularly your behavior towards your partner.

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It makes sex better

Meditation makes sex better (if you’re with the right person). You just feel the most emotionally connected you ever have been and feel especially bonded after being so physically close.

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We eliminate toxic relationships

When you meditate daily, the relationships in your life that don’t make you feel warm and light stick out like sore thumb and you begin to eliminate them, saving more attention and energy for your partner.

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We focus on health

We both cherish our own bodies more after we meditate, realizing what incredible vessels they are for enjoying this life. To put it simply: I don’t need to remind my partner to eat healthy or drink less as much as I did before meditation.

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