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Recently, I posted an article on the 10 most common things men fib about. Well ladies, it is now our turn. Now of course, most women feel that men lie way more than they do and about more serious issues; but, women can be just as dishonest as men and we might just be better at it. Our reasons for lying are probably the same reasons men have for lying: to spare feelings. But whether we tell little white lies or big ones to save our behinds, we all lie just the same. Here are what I believe to be the most common lies women tell.
I just finished reading Gillian Flynn’s “Gone Girl,” a New York Times bestseller about a wife that goes mysteriously missing. **Spoiler Alert** Throughout the course of the book, you learn that her husband is not as a good as he seems, and that her marriage is in a shambles, which becomes clear after reading her diary. From jump, it seems like her husband is a textbook LifeTime wife-murderer. Then it’s revealed that the diary is a fake. Basically, right when you think you know what’s going on, you don’t know who to trust in the story.
That’s a scary concept: how can you know who is real and who is fake? How many white lies, half-truths, and omissions are people keeping from each other? Can you ever really trust what someone says? To be honest I don’t know if I could handle knowing all there is to know about a person, there are some truths I don’t want to know. But part of our human nature is curiosity about the unknown and we often times have difficulty accepting it, which is why Jack Nicholson’s classic line from A Few Good Men seems to fit perfectly when it comes to keeping it real – sometimes, “you can’t handle the truth!”
Sometimes, radical honesty is absolutely necessary. Telling your guy friend that you’re really not into him before he catches feelings, being up front with coworkers about your workload, letting your family know that you can’t deal with their dysfunction – those are the times when being blunt and upfront serves you well. For one thing, it involves you making the best decision for yourself (always good). For another, it keeps people’s expectations in check. Telling the truth in those circumstances usually has positive outcomes. Nobody ever has to guess where you stand on an issue because you let them know what it is and what it ain’t.
On the other hand, letting all of truth out of the honesty jar can be a step too far. There are some situations where ‘truthiness’ , the term Stephen Colbert created that is defined by Urban Dictionary as “the quality of stating concepts one wishes or believes to be true, rather than the facts,” is crucial to your survival. When your lover asks you what you are wearing right now, you don’t always have to tell him ‘hole-y granny panties that used to be white.’ If your sister asks you if her boyfriend is cute, just nod up and down and say ‘mmmm’ – no need to tell her that her man looks like a swamp donkey. Saving face is not always bad, especially if it’s not going to harm anyone.
Keeping it overly real has the tendency to go wrong at some point, as the uppercut bus driver is finding out all too well. I just try to make sure what I say is honest enough to keep me from getting struck down by lightening. Telling it like it is can put you in hot water sometimes, but like the old adage says, honesty is the best policy.
If we’re honest, we’ll admit that we haven’t been completely honest in our relationships. Hopefully, most of the lies have been small, white ones but some of the people we interviewed on the streets of New York have told some pretty big ones. Watch the video and see what they had to say.
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Men and women lie – there’s no doubt about that. I’m not sure if there’s ever a good excuse for lying, but we may always be able to offer a “reason.” We can say that men and women lie for different reasons, but at the end of the day, my guess is that men and women lie to either save their behind or spare our feelings (or both). Most men think women are emotionally fragile creatures who can’t handle the truth – and here are a few examples of “good lies” (if there is such a thing) that men tell us to keep the peace…. Read the rest of this entry »
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Men aren’t as quick to catch on to things as women are. They lack the intuition and social intelligence females are born with. It’s amusing to watch a couple argue, because men aren’t playing dumb when a disagreement “mysteriously” comes out of nowhere. He just doesn’t get it.
A man needs some things explained using simple language and easy-to-follow steps. It may take some time. But he will catch on. By that point however, women are so secure in her brilliance, she carries on like he’s not too wise about anything.
So if the following applies to you, just know that at some point in time, he’ll have that “aha” moment, and will know full well that:
Have you ever noticed how easy it is to lie to men?
If there is one thing women are just as guilty as men are in relationships, it’s lying. Even though most of them come in the form of little white turn-a-mole hill-into-a-mountain fibs, some are quite deceitful. But, then again, how would we retain our “mystery” if we didn’t? After all, part of the chase is trying to figure us out, right?
Here are a few lies women are notorious for telling:
We’ve all hear the saying ‘you ain’t got to lie to kick it’. Of course you don’t really have to lie, but sometimes, especially when you choose to keep things private, you lie instead of simply saying ‘I don’t want to answer that’. This is probably because when we refuse to answer something, people automatically assume the worst, especially those who know us so well, like our girlfriends.
While women love to run to their girlfriends with the latest tidbits of what’s going on at our jobs, in our love lives, or anything else in between, sometimes there are those things that we would rather keep to ourselves. Even as adults, instead of refusing to answer, we sometimes lie.
Are you guilty of telling any of these white lies to your girlfriends?
“Who the biggest liars, men or women? Women are the biggest liars! Look at you, all of you. All of you are liars! Masters of the lie- the visual lie. Look at you. You got on heels- you ain’t that tall. You got on makeup, your face don’t look like that. You got a weave- your hair ain’t that long. You got a Wonderbra on- your titties ain’t that big. Everything about YOU is a lie, and you expect me to tell the truth?!? Fawk you!” – Chris Rock
Ah ladies! We always get on the fellas for lying. But let’s be real- we lie too. And though many of us ladies do strive to be honest and forthright, sometimes we get put in positions where we’d rather not tell the truth- at least not at that exact moment in time. So what do we do? Sometime we (gasp) lie. But in our defense, they’re mostly little white lies, half-truths. So nobody’s really getting hurt. And though I have to agree with Chris Rock that we women are masters of the visual lie- I actually like to call it the “beautiful illusion.” Personally I still think men are the biggest liars. But maybe that’s just because I’m a woman and choose to stay loyal to the sisterhood Here are 5 funny and sometimes obvious lies we women tell men.