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Diana Ross, the legendary Supremes frontwoman, allegedly made a scene last Thursday at a Beverly Hills restaurant after refusing to wait to be seated.
According to the New York Post, upon arriving at Italian restaurant La Scala for lunch, Ross was told she would have to wait to be seated until her daughter arrived.
Ross reportedly refused, and walked to a booth and sat down. Management informed the diva of their seating policy: Incomplete parties will not be seated unless a reservation has been made. She was also told that if “she cut the line and sat before her daughter arrived, she would not be served.”
See what happened once Diana’s daughter arrived on The Grio.
Okay, so you know what you want. You wanted a better job, so you applied for one. You wanted a mate, you started dressing up to go to the grocery store. You wanted a house, you started saving up money for one. First, let me applaud you for taking whatever big step you have decided to take, because that takes a lot of courage to put yourself out there and be optimistic that you’ll reap a positive reward. Now, after some people take these big steps they sit back and think: ”Ah yes, now all I have to do is play the waiting game” while they twiddle their thumbs, right? Some people just recline and wait after putting themselves out there, but others, the smart ones, are able to take their destinies in their own hands by putting in additional effort to help achieve their goals. Life is usually never as simple as waiting to be discovered and sometimes it pays to be active while you’re waiting.
Here are some examples of when you should do a little something more:
Being Active While Looking for a Job
I once got some extremely bad advice about interviewing from someone in a position of authority. The person told me that when I interview I should tell them how bad I need the job, explain whatever dire consequences I was experiencing, and the truth that in five years I planned to be as far away from that company as possible. By no surprise, I didn’t get the job.
While applying for others I came across an article about proper interviewing etiquette that told me that everything I just did was wrong. But on top of that, I saw articles that depicted different scenarios that could appear in job interviews. I read article after article about what interviewers are looking for when you answer their questions, what makes your resume appealing to potential employers and so on. After reading all of this, I revamped, and was soon hired.
Being Active After Applying for a Job
So you wanted a better job with better pay, you applied. Now, what else is there to do? If this is something that you’re passionate about and it’s not just a means to another paycheck, try to make sure that if/when you do get that job that you embody as many of the company’s mission statement’s qualities as possible. Look for your weak spots and try to improve them. You’re good at communication but not too well at computers? Take the time to learn the different programs and systems. Take a class on it, or study up online or at the library.
Then, if you do get that interview, it’s always customary to do a follow up by sending a thank you card.
Actively Waiting While You’re Waiting for The One
So, you have your idea about the person that you want to be with for the rest of your life. You might not know who he/she is, but you have your criteria checklist memorized and you’re judging all potentials to it. However, do you meet the criteria of someone else’s list?
I’m not big on people being hard on themselves, but if you judge someone from a pretty rigid standard, shouldn’t you hold yourself to the same standard? Don’t want a drunk, put down the bottle yourself. Don’t want to feel a fold in someone’s back fat, join a gym.
Instead of waiting for the perfect person, make sure that you’re the best you that you can be.
Actively Waiting while contemplating making a big purchase
Not too many people aspire to just live with their parents for the rest of their lives, or constantly take public transportation. For those who hope for better for themselves, try to make sure that you do things to help yourself out when you’re ready for that big purchase.
Remember that old credit card you got when you were in college, maxed out during Spring Break, and then decided not to pay it? Those types of incidences can negatively impact your credit score, and credit score can be the deciding factor between a Benz and a Pinto, a house and an apartment.
If you have to, go to a financial adviser and pinpoint what little things you can work on to help yourself out as much as you can in the future. Once you start chopping away at some of your frivolous debts you can start being aided in making more substantial purchases.
Actively Waiting when you have a talent
Do you sometimes watch television shows and movies and think: ”Man, if I had that role I’d do it like this…” So you find local auditions and try out, and that’s all you do; go to auditions. Maybe include an acting class in your schedule? There are people who have raw talent and never had to go to an acting class, but it wouldn’t hurt to go while you wait. As with everything in life, we never know the answers and it could help to get a little direction from someone with more experience and a fresh, unbiased perspective.
This is the truth with any talent. I felt like I had a talent for writing, so I majored in English and took a lot of Rhetoric classes to help me along with way. Are you a great chef? Take a cooking course just to hammer out the basics.
Once you feel like you have good foot hold on your talent, get yourself out there. That amazing talent is being wasted if you’re the only person who knows it is you. Want to write? Write a book. (or an eBook, so easy!) Want to be a chef? Cater a few family functions. Once you begin to branch your talent outside of your mind, you’ll be able to reach the milestones you were waiting for. Opportunity does knock, but you have to give it the right address.
Kendra Koger is actively waiting for you to hit her up on twitter @kkoger. She’s also waiting for her takeout to arrive, which ever comes first…
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A boyfriend once joked to me before going out of town for a week, “I’m sorry I won’t be around to satisfy your needs.” I laughed. Who was he kidding? I’m not a dude. I don’t go nuts without sex for a few days. Boy was I wrong. Let’s just say, by the end of the week I had bought some triple A batteries and an item that hides in a shoe box. Luckily, my doing-it drought was brought on by something as simple as physical distance, but sometimes, it’s not that simple. And there’s nothing you can do about it but wait.
I recently had a young college girl send me a question about a disastrous encounter with a guy whom she “gave up the goods” to on the second date, and now feels terrible because it had been over a week, and he hadn’t called. ”I feel like I wasted myself,” she said.
Well, turns out, she had.
College ladies, when you leave the firm grip of your parents and go off to college, think twice before you go buck wild because they’ll be no one back at the dorm room to be folding their arms, tapping their toes and giving you the stink eye. All that new-found freedom can be literally intoxicating, but when you’re suddenly thrust into adulthood, and are free to do grown folks’ thangs, you’d better get ready. Because with freedom comes responsibility.
How soon into a relationship should you and your man be throwing around the words, “I love you?”
During college, I was in a relationship with a guy for over a year and a half. We had been through hell and high water together–a vindictive ex of mine on campus, his constant acquisitions of female friends that unintentionally started drama–and like most men do in the beginning, he pursued me to no end to be his girlfriend. But once the relationship got going fast, things seemed to be moving a little too slow. Well, maybe just for me. That vindictive ex? He said “I love you” faster than those talking dolls from back in the day, and when he said it, we were just talking again after a break up, and had been doing so for maybe a month? It came out so fast that I didn’t feel it in return and wound up lying and saying it back, only to retract it like a jerk. With that experience in the bag, I think I just assumed as a young woman still learning about love, that it wouldn’t take too long or too much the next time around. Call me spoiled.