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Did you just graduate college or will you graduate soon? Well, listen up love this right here’s for YOU. We spoke to the wise women on our Facebook and Twitter pages to find out what they wish they knew about the “real world’ before they graduated from college. (Some took offense to the term real world; but truth be told, for most college students, college provides an escape from “real world” responsibilities. So we think it’s applicable.) Either way, if you want an accurate picture of what you’re in for, check out some of the wisdom our followers have to share.
We have some of the most interesting discussions in our offices. I was out of town last week but when I returned, my coworkers informed me that they had a very spirited discussion about the most attractive and unattractive people in reality television. I won’t share who we didn’t find attractive. That wouldn’t be nice but I’ll give you a little peek into the list of fine brothas. (This list just so happens to be all black men.) What I learned from this conversation is that standards of beauty and attractiveness are completely subjective. My coworkers were making suggestions I really could not support, some of these picks made this list; but then again, they didn’t like everyone I suggested either. So without further adieu, let’s jump in and see who made the cut. If your favorite reality star cutie didn’t make the list, be sure to leave his name in the comments section.
Editor’s Note: Please keep in mind that this list is based on physical looks alone! Some of the men listed have some disgusting personal flaws but we’re just discussing the physical…and nothing else.
‘The Real World’s’ Marlon Williams Has An Interesting Explanation For Why He’s Not Gay Even Though He Had Sex With A Man
Marlon Williams is many things: a member of the season 28 cast of MTV “Real World” in Portland, a preacher’s kid, and an aspiring rapper. But one thing the 25-year-old Texan wants to make clear that he’s not is homosexual.
No, the situation here isn’t that Marlon is effeminate and people are making assumptions about his sexual orientation. He’s actually had sex with a man before, but insists that doesn’t make him gay. He even goes further to say how one identifies themselves sexually doesn’t even matter anymore in this day and age. That was the crux of his recent interview with The Advocate, which asked him to clarify his dealings with men and the current status of his dating life. Here’s a bit of the Q&A.
The Advocate: OK, this is awkward. MTV tells us “Marlon has had intercourse with a man before and does identify with being bisexual. But he says that he is more attracted to women and doesn’t think he would be with a man again.” We could just take their word for it, but we’d rather you tell us yourself how you identify and why.
Marlon WIlliams: Well, I don’t consider myself bisexual, because I’m not sexually attracted to men. I did have sex with a man but my reasoning for it was different. It was in a hectic time of my life filled with fighting a lot of life battles. I was just making a lot of decisions that I would not normally make. At that time in my life the gay community embraced me, and it is one of those things that just happened. I have nothing against people who are bisexual or gay, but that is not my preference.
How do women react when you tell them?
That’s funny, because it’s not a part of my conversations with women. It hasn’t really come up with any of the females I’ve been involved with. Most women I’ve been interested in lately don’t even care. I mean, whatever your sexual orientation is who cares? If you’re happy that is all that matters.
You’re the son of a preacher and were raised with conservative values. Does that cause conflict for you in terms of your sexuality?
Well, sex in any form is hard, because the beliefs of my parents say that you are supposed to wait for marriage. The big misconception used in religion is that some sin is worse than others. That isn’t true. All sin is equal. Therefore, anything I do that is sinful can be forgiven if I repent and make changes. My belief is that God forgives anybody who believes and wants a new start in life.
You also rap under the name Jay Dillinger. Is the world of rap as homophobic as it is rumored to be? How do you deal with that?
At the end of the day it’s about the music. Frank Ocean definitely showed that if you’re talented, then you can make it happen. Being a rapper isn’t all about the hardcore gangsta stuff all the time. So I feel there is room for any type of artist to make it. You just have to be good. Me, personally, I just ignore the hate. Who somebody goes home with is their business. What difference does it really make in the end? None.
Reactions to Marlon’s interview have been mixed, with one commenter noting:
“He says sexual orientation doesn’t matter anymore but he still labels himself as straight. Doesn’t that mean it still matters to him, at least enough to align himself with heterosexuality?”
On the flip side, another person commented:
“A one-time thing with a man doesn’t make him gay anymore than a one-time thing with a woman would, necessarily, make him ‘straight.’ When he says ‘sexuality doesn’t matter,’ I assume he means as far as he’s concerned. What stood out for me is when he says it’s not ‘part of the conversations’ he has with women. I expect that to now change once the show is on.”
I would expect that to change too, just as I would want a man who had been with another man to tell me so before we were involved sexually. While I agree that a one-time sexual encounter doesn’t necessarily change your entire sexual orientation, I do need to know if you’re going to be inclined to go down that path again should the wind blow that way.
What do you think about Marlon’s interview? Does he seem to be on the DL or is he offering up valid points?
About This Episode
Former Reality Star and TV Personality, Melissa Beck speaks candidly about how her real world changed from being “a girl behaving badly” to now a devoted wife and stay at home mother who recently converted to Judaism. And oh, she’s expecting again!
About Melissa Beck
We first came to know Melissa from The Real World: New Orleans cast. From there she went on to being a mainstay TV personality as the host of Girls Behaving Badly and in 2005 Melissa returned to reality TV with Bravo’s Battle of the Network Reality Stars. She is married to Glassjaw guitarist Justin Beck and the couple resides in Long Island, New York. In March 2009, Melissa gave birth to their first child Shalom Beck and is happy to announce she’s expecting a second baby early next year!
About Karyn Parsons
Karyn Parsons is best known as the character “Hilary Banks” on the long-running television show, “The Fresh Prince of Bel Air.” Today she is a wife and mother of two. Parsons is also the Founder and President of the Sweet Blackberry foundation after being inspired by the true tale of a determined slave and the remarkable lengths he travelled to find his freedom. While growing up, Parsons’ mother, a librarian in the Black Resource Center of a library in South Central Los Angeles, would share stories of African-American accomplishment with her daughter. A mother and activist, Karyn created Sweet Blackberry to use the power of stories to inspire youth. Follow her on Twitter @Karyn_Parsons.
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- Episode 4: The Perfect Mother’s Day Gift
- Episode 5: Actress Kym Whitley Talks New Baby & Food Allergies for Kids
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- Episode 1: Are You A Good Enough Mother?
- Episode 2: New Motherhood and Balancing A Busy Work Life
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- Episode 4: Foodie, Nicole Friday on Kids and Career
- Episode 5: Melissa Beck, From Hollywood to Stay At Home Mom
- Episode 6: Single Mom in The City
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- Episode 1: Back 2 School
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- Episode 3: Socially Responsible Kids
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- Episode 5: Keeping Families Healthy
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I think we can all see that since the early Millennium, reality TV has taken over with a vengeance. Scripted comedies and dramas are floundering while tasteless, tacky and tired (dare I say, ratchet?) reality programs are making all the money. And we’re all watching! For shame, I know. They started way back in the early ’90s, and slowly but surely, they’re running the TV world. In the time of watching these shows, there have been many moments that had people talking. Whether they were for hilarious reasons or because they were crazy as hell, we’ve definitely come across some unforgettable moments. Here are a few, and feel free to KINDLY share moments that had you talking crazy way down below…
The Very Ratchet “Flavor of Love” Days: New York Gets Spit On By Pumkin (Start at 1:35)
Okay, so anybody could tell from just a few episodes of “Flavor of Love” that New York is crazy, however, there’s just some things you don’t do to people, not even a worst enemy, and that’s spit on them. During the first season of “Flavor of Love,” though she made it to the top three, Pumkin was given the boot and didn’t find it fair. While she tried to plead her case with Flav, as though she really wanted to stay because she cared for him (*rolls eyes*), New York got to flapping off at the mouth after she was called out for being an opportunist actress. The verbiage got ugly and before you knew it, Pumkin turned around and spit at New York, with the mess landing on her chin and hair (*gags*). I think everybody was talking about the incident because they were trading off stories of what they would have done had it been them. The push New York gave Pumkin after the fact that sent homegirl flying into the camera was also worth a good laugh or two as well.
Times are a-changing and so is television, folks. And if you leave it up to television station bosses, whatever makes money will stay on and play itself out no matter how lame the shows get, how many people voice concerns, complaints, or basically say they’re bored. But the following shows truly need to wrap it up. They’ve lost their spark, what made them funny, interesting, and even informative. Check out the following choices and see if you agree. And of course, a majority of the shows are reality TV. But what else do you expect, that’s all we’re getting on our televisions! Special shout out to Viacom for airing most of these programs on their array of stations (and not a good shout out…).
106 & Park
No disrespect, but let’s keep it real: TV shows that cater to music video countdowns and showcasing minimally talented celebrities answering the most basic of questions are out of style. Don’t believe it? Where the hell is “TRL”? Exactly. While this show had its golden years with A.J. and Free and was what everyone was running home to watch, it has become a corny shell of itself. The chemistry between Rocsi and Terrence just wasn’t like what we got from A.J. and Free (who couldn’t see that A.J. had a thing for his co-host?). And seriously, they don’t even really play the videos for more than a minute anymore anyway. Instead of looking for new hosts and forcing these young’ns to have to adjust to new faces, just give it a rest already.
As I look up the word “ghetto” in the dictionary, I find an array of meanings. For instance, according to Merriam-Webster, a ghetto is:
- a quarter of a city in which Jews were formerly required to live.
- a quarter of a city in which members of a minority group live especially because of social, legal, or economic pressure.
- an isolated group; a situation that resembles a ghetto especially in conferring inferior status or limiting opportunity.
Maybe it has to something to do with that last two interpretations (do ONLY minorites live in the ghetto by the way?), but when I look at these random definitions of ghetto, I don’t understand the way the term is being used out in the streets on a daily basis. Or specifically, the way I saw it used the other day. While trolling on Facebook at the end of the night just to see what people were up to/talking about, a former classmate from elementary school and high school was telling the world about a major annoyance that occurred during her day. That’s cool, people vent on Facebook pretty often. However, her comment was so random to me that it bothered me for the rest of that evening. The young woman said something to the effect of, “Why are these preppy girls acting ghetto during my lunch break singing “Bug A Boo” by Destiny’s Child?” And yes, she was white.
Maybe I needed to be there. She didn’t go into details about the encounter, but from the sound of it, because they made the choice to sing out loud, and maybe even because it was “Bugaboo” (and not some Adele), they were behaving in the way it’s assumed folks from the actual ghetto behave. Perhaps it was because she was a white woman, who like me (a black chick), grew up in the suburbs and probably hadn’t ever really had to encounter a ghetto of any kind, maybe that’s why it bothered me so much. But either way, her statement literally brought out one of those horrendously long eye-roll moments.
I think it bothered me so much because ever since college (I went to a predominately black high school in an area hit with “white flight”), I’ve heard a wealth of young white women and men I wasn’t highly exposed to before use the term ghetto to describe people who are black, or non-blacks who have an appreciation for black culture and the likes. Saying that something or someone is ghetto with a negative connotation attached implies that folks who live in ghettos all tend to act a certain way–a negative way. Especially when you throw up that eyebrow, curl your lip and say it with such passion. It has become clear that I’m not the only person who has noticed this trend (remember “Ish White Girls Say to Black Girls”? That was one of them.) Really, what exactly does the chicks singing “Bug A Boo” have to do with people growing up in a place of inferior opportunity or of social, economic and legal pressures? Fill me in if you get it because I just don’t.
All reality stars don’t have to act a fool. In fact, some of them turned their tenure on reality television into something very lucrative. Check out the celebs who made the most of their 15 minutes in the limelight at Black Enterprise.com.
Say what you want now, but “The Real World” single-handedly ushered in the reality TV craze. In the beginning, it was all about painting a grim, but true portrait of everyday life for young people in this little, big world of ours. And while the show was able to do all that, it’s always had a crutch when it comes to diversifying. The few black people featured from season to season were often remembered as over-agressive brothas carrying around ticking time bomb tempers. With all that, the black women of “The Real World” haven’t fully received their due, and with the 25th season starting today, it’s about time. A few of my faves, they weren’t all positive role models, but they looked like us, were interesting, and were very real indeed…Ooooo ladies first!