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You may have heard the latest news. Venus Williams is a sex addict. That’s what the internets are claiming today. But let me explain. Venus recently spoke to, a foreign magazine Affari Italiani, about her new Italian boo. She didn’t say too much; I’m assuming for the sake of privacy, but she mentioned that she can’t keep her hands off of him. The full quote was broken up but the magazine, and now other online publications are reporting that Venus said, she’s “like an octopus” when it comes to him. She then described her new beau: “He’s a 29-year-old businessman and he comes from Rome – but I’m not going to say more.” You can read the full article here. The whole things is only about five sentences long.

If you had a chance to read it, you may have noticed that  no where in that blurb do we see that Venus referred to herself as a sex addict. It would appear that the “sex addict” phrase came from another publication, the Austrian Times, in an attempt to sensationalize the story.  It would be one thing if this were the only publication that stretched the truth this way; but unfortunately, other outlets are running with this title.

Now, I don’t know Venus personally, but doesn’t this sex addict statement seem like a bit much coming from her? I mean this is the same Venus Williams who claimed, right along with her sister, that she was committed to her faith as a Jehovah’s Witness and was abstaining from sex. The same Venus, who is the same interview with Affari Italiani, wouldn’t mention homeboy’s full name. I’ve followed Venus and Serena’s career. It’s not like her to share the intimate details of her relationships.  But now she’s a sex addict. Hmm… ok.

I wasn’t there for the interview but the whole thing seems like a phenomenon we know all too well. The hypersexualization of black women. From the oogling of Sarah ”Saartjie” Baartman (aka Hottentot Venus) to the recent image of Michelle Obama’s face photoshopped onto a breast-baring body, it seems as if the media, and particularly the European media, is still on a mission to assign “Jezebel-like” characteristics to black women and now black women of prominence. No one is safe. Now even Venus can’t seem to control her impulses. The Austrian Times may or may not realize this; but sex addiction is a very real disease, one that is not to be taken lightly, or even falsely attributed to public figures, particularly black women. We, black women…most of us anyway, are normal people, with normal sexual desires and appetites. The Jezebel stereotypes are completely unfair and certainly played out at this point.

Why do you think the media is so hell bent on assigning hypersexualized characteristics to black women?

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With her lawsuit tossed out by a Georgia judge in July, Beverly McClendon has taken her case against The Tyra Banks Show to the appeals court.

Back in 2009, The Tyra Banks Show put out a call for sex addicts. McClendon says Warner Bros and producers from the show convinced her then-15-year-old daughter Jewel Ciera Washington, who responded to the call, to go to New York to be on the show behind her mother’s back. According to The Hollywood Reporter, McClendon’s lawsuit claims Warner Bros and the show demonstrated negligence and violated Washington’s privacy.

“Several phone conversations happened, and on at least one of those calls, Washington impersonated her mother so that the producers would believe they had parental consent. Washington also forged her mother’s signature on the consent and release forms,” THR reports. McClendon’s original suit sought $1 million in compensatory damages, $2 million in punitive damages and an injunction to keep the show from being distributed.

Mom says the show didn’t follow proper paperwork procedures. The judge said Washington wasn’t hired by the show so child labor laws in Georgia don’t count. Moreover the state doesn’t doesn’t recognize a “relational right to privacy.” Unsatisfied, McClendon is taking her case elsewhere.

We’re wondering how a 15-year-old made it out of the house, to the airport and onto a national TV show “behind her mother’s back.” We don’t have the details in front of us, but to McClendon’s point, didn’t the show think it was weird that a young teen had showed up to appear on a program about sex addiction without her mother? What do you think?

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From YourTango.com

In the June issue of Details magazine, Adam Levine admits that he’s led a promiscuous life, but claims he’s not a sex addict, according to Us Weekly.

“There’s two kinds of men: There are men who are f**king misogynist pigs, and then there are men who just really love women, who think they’re the most amazing people in the world. And that’s me,” Levine said. “Maybe the reason I was promiscuous, and wanted to sleep with a lot of them, is that I love them so much.”

The woman-loving singer has been linked to numerous female celebs, including Jessica Simpsonand Natalie Portman. According to him, the world has seen him as “a little bit of a bimbo” for a number of years because he’s always sleeping with some pretty girl or another.

But, he doesn’t want the world to think of him as a vapid sex addict because of that.

Read the rest of the story and find out why Adam has such great luck with the ladies at YourTango.com. 

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No one wants to be alone forever, but a stable, self-confident person doesn’t actually think “oh my GOD I’m going to be alone forever” just because they are alone for a couple of months. Only a true relationship addict goes into panic mode the moment they are unattached—that’s where the addiction comes from. You know you’re an addict if you do this:

Sex is an addition to a relationship; not the basis of one. Well, that is unless you’ve had that ‘good-good’. By that ‘good-good’ I am referring to sex that’s so good it causes you to make decisions that you normally wouldn’t make. Your judgment is off because the sex is so good; and at times you even question why you stick around. That is until your next sexual encounter.

If someone would have told me years ago that sex could tremendously alter decisions, change opinions or even make or break a relationship, I’d chalk it up to silliness or a lack of self-control. Now a bit older, I’ve seen the effects that sex can have on relationships. It can cause a woman (or man) to leave a relationship or even prolong his or her stay in one.

In her song conveniently titled ‘Good Good’, Ashanti brags about having the type of sex that ensures her man comes home. Although we know sex alone doesn’t keep a relationship together, it can have a positive or negative effect on one if you let it.

If not careful, even the most strong-minded woman can allow good sex to alter decisions in a relationship. So how do you know if you’re in a relationship solely because you’ve been hypnotized or sex-matized by that ‘good-good’?…..

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