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Baby Contracts Herpes After Being Kissed By Family Friend — With A Cold Sore

September 27th, 2016 - By Victoria Uwumarogie
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If you’re one of those people who assume parents are being overprotective when they ask you not to put your lips on their child (we understand that their cuteness, particularly those puffy little cheeks, can make that difficult), here’s the evidence you need to refrain from puckering up for a baby, including your own.

Earlier this month, Portsmouth woman Amy Stinton shared some very alarming images of her son, Oliver, on Facebook. His body was covered in sores after the infant was kissed by someone with a cold sore. Those sores ended up being herpes.

According to Stinton, Oliver had to be on an IV drip for four days. She said that “he’s still very sore, but better.”

Herpes can be passed on when the herpes simplex virus is present on the surface of the skin, as stated by Medical News Today. The moist skin surrounding the mouth, anus and genitals are the easiest areas on the body to infect.

According to the World Health Organization, a whopping 67 percent of adults under 50 have the type of virus the person who infected Oliver had: herpes simplex 1. They’re talking about 3.7 billion people. It only appears on your mouth through cold sores, as opposed to genital herpes, otherwise known as herpes simplex virus 2.  In estimates done in 2012, 178 million women and 142 million men had the herpes simplex 1 virus.

There is no cure for herpes. And even though most adults can fare fine and bypass complications from the virus (aside from feeling socially stigmatized or a psychological distress — according to WHO), herpes can be fatal for a young child. A two-month-old baby died after reportedly contracting herpes from her father, who had contracted the virus years before meeting his wife and having a child.

And while many people, medical professionals included, see it as an uncommon medical complication for a child, ABC noted back in 2008 that at the time, 1,500 to 2,200 babies under a month old were getting herpes in the U.S. each year, with 85 percent of cases ending up fatal. It’s also a problem abroad. A woman named Claire Henderson from the U.K. shared a similarly scary story to Stinton’s after her infant daughter contracted herpes from a kiss last year:

Cold sore or not, everyone needs to be careful when it comes to kissing babies. With so many people having the herpes simplex 1 virus, and according to the CDC, a large number of those infected not knowing it, keep your lips to yourself. Pass the word to your friends, aunts, your mother, Peanut and ‘nem — pretty much everybody.

What To Prepare For When You Tell A Man You Have Herpes

September 7th, 2016 - By Julia Austin
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If you’re a woman with genital herpes, you’re by no means alone — according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 1 in 6 people between the ages of 14 and 49 has Herpes Simplex 2 –but you can feel very alone when it comes to dating. It’s hard to know when to tell a new boyfriend or somebody you’re casually seeing that you have genital herpes. If you say it early, you could scare them off–but maybe it’s better to know that before you become attached. If you tell them late, they could feel betrayed and like you withheld important information. The right partner will accept that you have genital herpes, and realize it would be silly to walk away from a great person over an easily contained condition. But when you’re in the dating phase, there’s no way to predict how every individual will respond to the news. Here are a few reactions to prepare for.

Would You Tell The Authorities If Your Friend Was Knowingly Spreading An Incurable STD?

January 20th, 2016 - By Veronica Wells
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Now that I’m nearly a decade removed from my high school graduation, I realize I went to school with people, kids, really,  who were living through dysfunction and hardships that I find hard to grasp today and would have found completely unimaginable when I was eighteen.

While some of my classmates enjoyed immense privileges, there were also students who were being beaten daily by step parents, forced to raise themselves, kids who sold drugs to support a parent with medical bills and folks who were going through rehab before we’d reached our junior year. Had I known all of this, perhaps I wouldn’t have been so shocked by the way some their lives turned out. When you don’t address or heal from a dysfunction, it only festers.

A few of my classmates went into a life of crime, were arrested for heinous acts against their significant others, a few lost their lives to senseless violence. It’s mind boggling to think where some of us ended up.

Particularly one girl, who we’ll call Janet.

Janet was a friend of a friend. I didn’t know her all that well but my friend liked her, so I tried to keep things cordial on the few times we did interact with each other. I can’t say she was my favorite. She always struck me as “extra,” always looking for some type of attention. And what I interpreted as annoying as a child was actually an expression of the way she was being treated at home.

Janet’s father had done extremely well for himself professionally and had the money to show for it. But when things didn’t work out with her mother, his ex wife, he dipped. Becoming the type absentee father who only shows love through checks and gifts.

Which is why she was always pining for male attention even at the expense of her own dignity and self worth.

Needless to say, the behavior lasted long after high school. She went to college in California, only to drop out when a local drug dealer caught her attention. She went from the drug dealer, to the abuser with no job. And as is common in these types of situations, she, a college dropout with a criminal record from her time with the drug dealer, was forced to support him. In addition to working retail, she started stripping to finance a lifestyle for herself and this grown man.

Eventually, he broke up with her but not before he gave her herpes. Herpes simplex, the incurable kind.

She learned of her diagnosis shortly after the break up with the abuser but it wasn’t information she shared with anyone else. Not even the new men she started sleeping with.

Instead, she continued dating, never informing her partners of her condition. As you may know, if a person is not experiencing an outbreak, the virus is virtually undetectable. In fact, it’s most commonly spread through open sores. Though it is possible to pass it on to someone through sexual contact, even if no sores are present.

She rationalizes her behavior by saying she never has sex when she has an outbreak and if someone does happen to catch it, oh well, she’s only doing to them what was done to her.


Knowingly putting someone else at risk for contracting an STI is not only immoral, if she does happen to transmit the STD, knowing she had herpes, she could face criminal charges. But all of that depends on whether or not the newly infected partner decides to press charges.

Being that Janet has no intention to ever disclose her status and no intention to remain celibate, my friend is wondering if it’s morally wrong to have this type of information and not report it…like to the Center for Disease Control.

If you were in this situation, knowing that your friend was living foul with no plans of changing any time soon, would you report her? Is it morally wrong to have this type of information and allow her to keep putting seemingly unsuspecting men at risk?

Is This Petty? I Want To Dump The Guy I Just Started Dating Because He Has Herpes

November 20th, 2015 - By Victoria Uwumarogie
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You meet a guy while out and about with friends. He’s handsome, witty, has a pretty good job and knows how to carry on a stimulating conversation. You give him your number and soon after, you go on a few dates. You both have great chemistry, and you like where things are headed. But after a few great dates, he hits you with some startling information that he felt was important to divulge before moving forward. He’s got herpes.

Where do you go from there?

That’s what one woman who reached out to us is trying to figure out after being told by a guy she was really interested in that he contracted herpes in college. Type II herpes entered his life (and body) when he was reckless and enjoying his freedom a little too much as a student. But he’s been out of college for more than a decade now.

He didn’t feel it was something he needed to tell Kylie on their first or second date, but as it became apparent that they both liked each other a lot, he wanted to be straightforward. The woman, who we’ll refer to as Kylie, would like to give this guy a chance, but at the same time, she wants to stay healthy. A reasonable concern. I mean, herpes is for life.

But genital herpes, despite how scary the name sounds, is more common than you think. According to the CDC, one out of every six people ages 14 to 49 have genital herpes. Thankfully, Kylie’s prospective boo was forthcoming with his STD information.

And it’s not the end of the world–or a thrilling sex life. While there’s no 100 percent surefire way to ensure that genital herpes isn’t spread, there are antiviral drugs that help treat it, and consistent use of condoms and barriers of protection can significantly reduce Kylie’s chances of getting genital herpes. Plus, if he has an outbreak, that’s the sign that folks would need to avoid sexual activity until it’s treated and everything is in the free and clear.

But enough of sex ed. What should Kylie do?

They’ve only been on a few dates. So if Kylie truly doesn’t feel comfortable dealing with the possible risks of dating a man with herpes, she has the right to exit stage left. But mistakes he made years ago shouldn’t keep this guy from having a fulfilling relationship and flourishing sex life with someone. Again, that was awesome that he chose to be open and honest about his situation way before a conversation about sex even came about. And if she really liked what he was bringing to the table before he told her, it would suck to throw all that out of the window.

They both could work together to prevent his outbreaks and limit Kylie’s chances of contracting the STD. As long as his outbreaks aren’t out of control, and he’s not jumping from bed to bed, it may not be necessary to count him out so soon.

Then again, if Kylie goes into things naively and doesn’t take care of herself, the relationship may not last, but the herpes? Oh, they would last forever…

But as always, that’s just my opinion. What do you think? Is it petty to end things with a person because they told you they have herpes? 


Why This Blogger Loves Telling People She Has Genital Herpes

April 16th, 2015 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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It’s not often that you encounter someone who is willing to speak openly about contracting a sexually transmitted infection. It’s even less common for you to encounter someone who boasts about their love for telling people they have an STI—an incurable one no less. However, in an attempt to kill the social stigma associated with having genital herpes and personal empowerment in her own sex life, writer Ella Dawson enthusiastically embraces opportunities to inform people that she has the virus.

In a recent essay for Women’s Health, Dawson explains that she was diagnosed with herpes at a campus clinic a few days before her 21st birthday. She recalls being confused by her diagnosis because prior to contracting the virus, she hadn’t engaged in unprotected sex and considered herself to be sexually responsible. However, as medical pamphlets will inform you, HSV can be contracted even with the use of condoms. Dawson recalls the six months following her diagnosis to be gloomy ones.

The next six months were a bit like learning to walk again—I stumbled around like a baby deer, too heavy for my own body. Rebuilding my sense of self was harder than getting over the symptoms of my first outbreak, which only lasted about a week and a half, thanks to Valtrex and a ton of Extra-Strength Tylenol.

She eventually gave dating a whirl again, but after informing her suitor of her HSV-positive status on their third date, he expressed that he did not want to risk contracting the STI by sleeping with her.

He apologized and said he had just gotten over chlamydia and wasn’t in a rush to gamble with his sexual health again. Although I respected his decision, I wasn’t able to separate his rejection of the virus from his rejection of me. I was devastated, and it felt like getting diagnosed all over again.

As time went on, Dawson admits that she developed more luck in the love department and she eventually found the strength in sharing her positive status.

I don’t know what made me decide enough was enough. I didn’t feel like the woman that my friends knew me to be—a bold and outspoken campus badass—but I was sick of making myself small because I had herpes. Six months after my first outbreak, I started dropping the “herpes bomb” into conversations casually. My logic was that every time I told someone, “I have herpes,” the words would get easier to say. I started looking for opportunities to share this fact about myself, seizing the chances presented by time spent waiting in line to pee at frat parties and by lively class discussions about health care. Although surely some people made faces as soon as I walked away, I never once got a negative reaction to my bold over-sharing. Most listeners were surprised, curious, and oddly excited to hear someone’s experience with a disease about which they knew nothing.

Dawson went on to explain that a positive herpes diagnosis does not equal a dead love life and that telling a potential partner (or anyone else for that matter) on your own terms makes all the difference in the world.

Getting diagnosed with an incurable and stigmatized STD like genital herpes is assumed to be a death sentence for your love life. Every time I tell someone that I have genital herpes, I run the risk of it being the only thing they remember about me. But when I tell them on my terms, with confidence and cleverness instead of shaking hands and shame, I am immediately positioned to get a better response.

When you disclose having herpes, generally whomever you’re disclosing to follows your lead. During those early conversations when I couldn’t maintain eye contact and constantly apologized, I radiated insecurity and doubt. It made herpes unnecessarily terrifying for me and for my potential partner. Casually mentioning it in an unrelated conversation on a first date, as opposed to making it a big, uncomfortable, “I have something to tell you” reveal after a few dates, makes it a conversation topic instead of a problem.

It’s great that Ella feels comfortable enough to share this information with world. Hopefully, her efforts to do away with the stigma surround genital herpes, which one in six people have been infected with, are not in vain.

You can read Ella’s full essay here. What are your thoughts on her openness?  


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How To Manage Dating Someone With An STD

December 2nd, 2013 - By Julia Austin
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Today, we know enough to understand it isn’t just reckless, irresponsible, ignorant individuals who pick up STD’s—we can all be at risk sometimes, even when we take precautions. Many STD’s can still be passed even when there is a condom present, and the most evil ones show no symptoms for a long time—if ever—leaving the carrier to believe he or she is perfectly clean.

It’s very likely that in your life you’ll date, fall in love with, or even marry someone with a permanent STD like HPV or Herpes. Here’s how to navigate it so that you can increase your chances of staying STD-free, and minimize your chances of offending your partner.

Gross: Harlem Woman Claims She Got Herpes From Rihanna’s RiRi Woo Lipstick

May 30th, 2013 - By Lauren R.D. Fox
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There are some headlines you come across that literally make you want to shout in your Tamar voice, “Girl, go get your life!” That is exactly how I felt when I saw this article: ‘Harlem Woman Sues MAC After Getting Herpes From RiRi Woo Pop-Up Shop.

Unlike the usual T-shirt souvenir one would receive from a concert, Starkeema Greenidge, 28 of Harlem, NY, claims she received herpes after attending Rihanna’s Diamond World Tour, according to the NY Daily News. On May 7, Greenidge attended Ri-Ri’s concert at Brooklyn’s Barclay Center and while there she browsed the MAC pop-up shop which promoted Rihanna’s new RiRi Woo lipstick. According to the lawsuit document, while Greenidge shopped, a MAC employee instructed her to apply the display RiRi Woo lipstick on her lips. Greenidge claims:

(MAC) didn’t use a fresh or new lipstick tube, but rather one that had been used for other patrons.” The lawsuit also states, “MAC should have known . . . it was unsanitary and exposing patrons to possible spread of disease.”

Two days after the concert, a cold sore reportedly appeared on Greenidge’s lip; her doctor diagnosed it as herpes. The damages Greenidge  requested  are unspecified but she states this incident has caused her “mental anguish and emotional distress.” “According to the site, STD Testing, oral herpes, caused by HSV1, is the country’s most prevalent viral STDs.”

Although I feel sorry Ms. Greenidge has contracted an incurable disease while supporting her favorite artist, everyone knows it is best for tester lipsticks to be used on your hand instead of your actual mouth. As my mother says, “all sense is not common.”

How do you think our girl Rihanna would respond to this lawsuit?

MN, M.D.: I Heard HIV Can Remain Undetected For 10 Years, How Often Should I Be Getting Tested?

February 25th, 2013 - By Mercy Edionwe MD
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Q: I recently heard that HIV can remain dormant and undetected in your body for up to 10 years. If that’s true, what would you recommend as far as a testing schedule whether you’re single or with a monogamous partner?

It may take up to 10 years or more for someone to have AIDS. AIDS, as you may know, is the final stages of the disease, when the HIV virus damages a person’s body to the point where they start to get infections that healthy people don’t usually get. An example of a type of infection seen a lot in AIDS patients is Pneumocystis jiroveci pneumonia (aka PCP).

The way HIV works is that once a person gets infected with the virus, it takes about 4 to 10 weeks before it can be detected in the blood (aka seroconversion).  For a small group of people, it may even be more than that.  At that time, the person may or may not be experiencing any symptoms. But if they are, they may complain about such things as a fever, headache, sore throat, general muscle aches, weight loss, or diarrhea.  During this period of time, the virus is heavily present and the body is trying to fight it by making antibodies against the HIV virus. Most HIV tests look for the antibodies so even if the HIV virus remains dormant and undetected, a person’s HIV status can be picked up by these tests through existing antibodies.

What would be the best testing schedule? The CDC recommends that everyone between ages 13 – 64 should be tested. A repeat testing should be done if you have a new sexual partner. Ideally, it would be best to wait 3 months after the 1st sexual contact with your new partner.  What would be even better is if you have your new partner tested before you even consider sleeping with him or her.  People who are at very high risk for HIV (homosexual males, IV drug users, and those with multiple sex partners) are recommended to be tested every 6 to 12 months.

What can also take up to 10 years in HIV? The average amount of years an HIV-infected person who refuses treatment has from the moment the virus is seen in the blood.

You Can Still Have Kids and 4 Other Myths About Herpes, Busted!

January 23rd, 2013 - By MN Editor
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From YourTango

Herpes is common. Really common. According to the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), about one in six adults has genital herpes, a sexually transmitted infection (STI) caused by the herpes simplex virus.

While it may be super-common, there are still a lot of myths out there about it — here are five I hear a lot.

Myth 1: If I don’t have any sores, I don’t have herpes.
Herpes can lay dormant (sort of like it’s in hibernation) for years without causing any noticeable symptoms. Because of this, many people don’t know they have it and may have trouble figuring out how or when they got it. When symptoms do occur, they often appear as small blisters on or around the genitals. The blisters may look like pimples with clear fluid in them, and they may be painful or have a burning sensation. The best way to find out if you have herpes is to see a health care provider if you have pain, blisters or a sore.

Myth 2: We didn’t have sex, so there’s no way I have genital herpes.
Herpes is spread by skin-to-skin contact with someone who carries the virus. That means you can get herpes by touching, kissing and oral, vaginal or butt sex. People who carry herpes don’t always know they have the virus, and they may not have any visible sores on their skin.

That said, your risk of getting the virus is higher if you’ve had contact with a partner who does have a visible sore. Using condoms can majorly decrease the risk of spreading the virus, but doesn’t eliminate it completely. Unfortunately, no other type of birth control reduces the risk of this STI.

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That’s Gonna Burn: Fake Chris Brown Files Lawsuit Claiming Rihanna Gave Him Herpes

October 23rd, 2012 - By Brande Victorian
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File this story under the ratchet stan files, subfile: people who have too much time on their hands. Ridiculous celebrity lawsuits have become far too frequent these days and Chris Brown and Rihanna are unfortunately the latest victims of the craze.

TMZ has obtained the documents, filed in U.S. District Court in Tennessee … in which “Chris Brown” is requesting a restraining order against Rihanna because he fears she will cause him bodily harm.

The suit contains the following (completely untrue) allegations:

— “[Rihanna] gave me herpes and then when I threatened to file a lawsuit against her for not telling me she was infested with genital blisters she began to hit herself in the face and throw herself into walls just as Jim Carey did in the movie ‘Liar, Liar.”

“Then she turned around and blamed me for the matter as a form of punishment.”

— “I woke up with three blisters [on] my p*n*s … this isn’t just a regular case of American herpes, this is a case of Herpes from Barbados, which is most likely lethal.”

The accuser is demanding $10 million … along with “a restraining against Rihanna and her case of genital herpes immediately.”

It must be a lot easier to file a lawsuit than I ever thought because this whole situation is pure foolery, not to mention a waste of legal resources and just showcases what a mockery  people can make of our judicial system. I know people are having a hard time wrapping their heads around this whole Chrianna reunion but c’mon son. This is too much.

If this Breezy imposter is caught he/she could be facing punishment from a judge. Due to the sheer insane nature of this lawsuit, let’s hope that happens.