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You and your guy love each other. You’ve been dating for two years or more. You live together and split the bills — all of them. His parents love you and vice versa. You have a dog together and everything is basically his and hers, yet the ring still hasn’t come. Based on the way your relationship has been progressing, it’s clear that the next logical step would be a proposal, but it just hasn’t happened and you’re starting to get confused. Don’t worry just yet. Here are 14 legitimate reasons for why he hasn’t proposed to you.

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Talk about crazy. I guess this is one of the reasons people argue that you shouldn’t live together premaritally; because when you want out, it’s just too hard to leave.

This was the case for a woman in Orlando who decided the  four year relationship with  her ex-fiance, Faron Thompson, 29, wasn”t going to work out. She was in the process of packing her stuff to move out of the apartment they shared together, when she remembered that she’d left her engagement ring on the kitchen counter. When she went to grab it that’s when Faron allegedly tried to shove it down her throat. He then threatened to burn the house down and while she was holding a one-year old child, pushed her against the wall, covering her mouth and nose with his hand.

The woman broke away and called the authorities.

As Thompson was being arrested, instead of utilizing his right to remain silent, he said,  “Women always claim assault, but never accept responsibility for provoking someone.”

If there was any doubt about whether or not he assaulted his ex-fiancee, that comment right there kind of removes all doubt. He should have kept his mouth shut.

What do you think about this story? Should the girlfriend have gone back for the engagement ring?

From Hello Beautiful.com.

Dear Gay Best Friend,

I don’t know where to begin, but I need your advice on where to go from here. So here’s the story.

I have been in a relationship with this man for four years. Two years into the relationship, he proposed marriage which I proudly accepted. However, throughout our relationship I NEVER met anyone face to face, nor via phone from his family — no kids, no friends, no church family. NO ONE! I constantly questioned this, but was always told that since these loved ones lived in another state it was difficult to get them all together. So, I let it go.

Anyway, the wedding planning was taking place quite smoothly, yet there were times when I constantly had to nag him for his list of guests and their addresses. Needless to say that he NEVER came through with a complete list for me. Yet, he told me that all of his guests knew all the pertinent wedding information.

Now, on to the good part. Two days before the wedding, he tells me that his mom (who lives in another state) became very ill and was hospitalized in intensive care. Therefore, he told me that some family members would not be attending the wedding. The very next day, he claimed that there was NO change in his mother’s condition and that more of his family members would not be attending and he was thinking of going to see his mom also. So, I responded with, “I understand your feelings for your mom, but how do we handle all the other guests and family that have traveled for this big day?” Well, the next day comes around, (which is the wedding day), and I get two calls that morning. First, he called and said that his mom took a turn for the worse. Then the second call, (an hour later from the first), he called and said that his mom had die. So, I immediately jumped into action by going to him to console him for his loss and to try to arrange for him to leave at some point that day to meet other family members to handle arrangements for his mom. While all of this is going on, I called around to tell all the other guests the news and that we would be delaying the ceremony for an hour so that the groom could get himself together, and he would be leaving right after the ceremony.

While guests are arriving to the church they find the church locked and no one inside. Out from nowhere the groundskeeper appears and asked why the guests are there? They responded they were there for a wedding. The groundskeeper informs them no wedding was set to take place. After many phone calls back and forth between my guests, the groundskeeper, and my potential groom it was discovered that the groom NEVER asked his pastor to officiate our wedding, nor did he book the church for the wedding. By that time it seemed to me, and others, that he simply DID NOT want to get married, aside from the grief he was suffering from losing his mother, which looked suspect after finding out the truth about the “locked” church. So, it was confirmed two days later that the groom lied about his mother’s death because he wanted to cover up the fact of NOT completing his wedding task as he should have. He claims he failed to do his part of the planning and came up with all these lies because he was scared and afraid that I would leave him for being lazy and procrastinating. I was devastated and humiliated beyond belief that I could have been left at the altar like that. To this day, this man constantly calls and asks for forgiveness and another chance at love with me. But, why would I even want to give him an ounce of my time? Am I being too harsh to someone that I undoubtedly truly did love? Or, should I just admit that I deserve better and let him and his deceitfulness go elsewhere? – The Jilted Bride

Find out what the gay best friend, Terrence Dean, has to say about this at HelloBeautiful.com.

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Source: Life&Style.com

In “Think Like a Man,” Meagan Good’s character had a 90-day rule before she would sleep with her man, but in real life, Meagan’s trial period is much longer. In fact, adhering to her celibacy plan is how she said she knew her soon-to-be husband was the one.

“Because he was willing to be celibate with me for a year,” she told Life & Style in an interview. “He loves God, more than I love God, so I don’t think there’s anything wrong [with it].

“Our wedding night will be the first time we’re actually together.”

This shouldn’t come as a total and complete surprise. Meagan did say she would be celibate until marriage, but sometimes that doesn’t always last. Plus she’s always playing a seductive character on screen which sometimes makes it hard to separate her real life persona from the one on camera. The fact that her fiancé is a preacher/movie producer should have made it easier for the both of them though.

Meagan says the wedding planning is already underway, and though she didn’t say if they’ve already set a date, she did share other details.

“We found the venue, which I’m really excited about, and it’s going to be in Malibu,” said Meagan, who met her fiancé while making “Jumping the Broom” in 2011. “I know I want to go for a bayou-themed kind of Spanish mosque, a very enchanted-y Twilight feel.”

More power to these two and their self control.

Brande Victorian is a blogger and culture writer in New York City. Follower her on Twitter at @be_vic.

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