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It’s no surprise that in 2012, women are going after what they want. Black women in particular are known for being assertive, and when it comes to education, a career, a family, even a man, we’re making it happen. But going after what you want when it comes to love could backfire on you, even be a bit creepy. Men are taught to be the chasers, while women are taught that if a man is truly interested, he’ll pursue you. So is asserting yourself in your love life a good thing? While confidence is definitely hot, there are some behaviors that some men consider a turn off.

Here are 6 things women do that can send a man in the opposition direction….

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Is being confident relevant to one’s existence? Does it make a difference in having low or high self-esteem? What exactly is self-esteem? Self-esteem is the realistic respect, or favorable impression a person has of themselves. It is who one believes they are, believing in their abilities, or the lack thereof. It is also who one believes they can be or desire to be. Self-esteem or the lack of comes from within and is revealed in the way a person walks, talks, their style of dress, the way they interact with others, etc.

A person’s self-esteem is a key part in who they are, who they will become, and what they will do. It starts developing as a child, and continues to develop as an adult. The relationships we encounter, the people we surround ourselves with, our parents, community, etc. all play an intricate part in the initial development of self-esteem.

Keri Hilson’s video for her new song “Pretty Girl Rock” is all types of adorable. In it, she pays homage to several black female entertainers, including Janet Jackson, Diana Ross and TLC.  Keri must have had a grand ol’ time playing dress up.  The words are cute and full of new millennium girl power attitude.

Pretty as a picture
Sweeter than a swisher
Mad cause I’m cuter than the girl that’s with ya
I can talk about it cause I know that I’m pretty
And if you know it too then ladies sing it with me
-Keri Hilson, “Pretty Girl Rock”

Cute, right? I like how she has the whole prissy girl vibe, but adds a little hood to it with the swisher comparison. The video and lyrics are right on the money. The song itself? Eh. It’s growing on me, but  I wanted more umph and less bubble gum with the production. I want the beat and the melody to go harder than they do, especially on the hook/chorus.

What do you think about “Pretty Girl Rock?”  Do you see this being “your song” when you’re at the club?

She walks into a room and people take notice.  They are intrigued, not necessarily because of her physical attributes, but instead by her self-assurance. She has an aura about her that screams ‘if you don’t know me honey, you should’…

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