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Thurayyah Mitchell, the former jump off of married and retired NBA player Stephon Marbury, is waiting for him to cut her check. You see, this chef-turned-side piece had a romance with the basketball star back in 2006. In an effort to keep her mouth shut and not expose the relationship to his wife, Marbury agreed to pay her $900,000.

TMZ reports that after paying over $600,000, Mr. Marbury decided to stop making payments back in 2010. Oh, but the best part is he not only verbally agreed to the hush money. She actually got him to put it in writing. So when the money stopped coming, it left Ms. Mitchell to legally enforce her contract. Marbury refused, alleging that filing her claim was a breach of the confidentially deal. Nice try.

On February 1^st a judge sided with Mitchell and ordered Marbury to pay the remaining $331,584.50 he owes plus interest. Now he has to pay and the whole world knows his business. Kind of defeated the whole purpose in making the deal in the first place, right?

So the lesson here is if you sign on the dotted line, even in these sorts of private affairs, you’re going to be responsible to whatever you agreed to. Of course, there’s also the question of whether Mitchell should really benefit from being half of an adulterous affair. Thoughts on that one?

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Why? Because we’re told we’re not “allowed” to get mad or be suspicious yet: he’s not our boyfriend yet. This has led many women to believe that behavior pre-relationship is not indicative of what a man’s behavior will be post-commitment – as if he just transforms into a new man once he takes on the title of “boyfriend.” Yeah right. Here are early signs a guy will cheat, way before he even has the chance. And yes, you should look for them.

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“How could you have done this to me, to us? Who are you and who did I marry?” With tears in his eyes, my ex-husband shouted and screamed these questions at me on the day he found out that I’d had an affair. All the while, I stood their shaking, in shock, not knowing what to say that would make what I had done right. I was a cheater.

Looking back, I realize that nothing in that moment would have given him the solace and comfort that he was looking for — or that I was looking for. His care and love had been transformed into disdain and hate for the monster I had become to him.

The question that came up repeatedly after our marriage dissolved was “Why?” Why did I cheat on him? Why would I do such a thing to a man who was caring, funny and generous? It wasn’t like he beat me up or anything like that.

If you are reading this and judging me, you are within your rights. No one judged me more harshly than I did, and even now, although it all turned out for the best, I wouldn’t go down that road again — even though I can completely understand why any women would.

Read why she did what she did at YourTango

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Clearly, neither Naomi, her boyfriend nor his wife are concerned about their arrangement.  Those of us who follow celebrity culture are the only ones still scratching our heads about it. Meanwhile, Naomi has just nabbed her third house from her boo.

According to Gizmodo, Naomi’s billionaire boyfriend, Vladislav Doronin, commissioned  architect Zaha Hadid to create the spaceship, Jetsons-like mansion for his current lady love. This will be a 28, 524 square foot mansion that will also have two 65 foot towers (presumably, they’ll be bedrooms) that will overlook trees and valleys and all types of greenery. Where’s the house located? Moscow, of course. It should come as no surprise that the mansion is being built overseas; the penthouse he bought her is in Brazil and the “Eye of Horus” mansion he had built for her is in Turkey.  I suppose she can buy her own domestic homes.

I don’t think we’ll ever know the true nature of their relationship or Vladislav’s relationship with his wife but he has no problem going to red carpet events with Naomi and openly spending big bucks on her.

Check out more pictures at Gizmodo.

Do you think, if people on the outside looking in had no problems with it, you’d date a married man? Not just any married man; would you date a financially loaded married man?

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From YourTango

An affair doesn’t have to be the end of a relationship. In fact, it can be a new beginning, bringing a couple closer than ever.

But, there are things to watch out for along the way if you want a healthy, lasting relationship post-infidelity. Here are six pieces of advice  for Robert and Kristen and all couples in this situation. Lets start with him:

1. Understand the reality of this affair. Itdoes make a difference if she had sex with Rupert Sanders or not. Most of the reports claim that Kristen did not have sex with him. If she didn’t have sex with the other guy, it is still infidelity, but not nearly as damaging.

If she did have sex with him, that is really difficult to get over, but it can be done if it isn’t a behavioral pattern. The rule of thumb with affairs is this: if it happens once, you can get over it. If it happens twice or more, it’s a pattern, and you can’t get over it because it will happen again.

Read more at YourTango

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Is Stacy Francis ever not in some drama? The “X Factor” contestant is exposing some information that’s probably rocking the pews at the City of Refuge Church in Gardena, CA—unless they already know the deal. The reality singing competition finalist has just admitted that her child’s father is the pastor of the megachurch, Bishop Noel Jones.

Sources had been leaking information to Radaronline about the paternity of the singer’s second child, and she eventually confirmed the rumors, saying she’s tired of keeping it a secret.

“I love him very much and I am not ashamed of my baby. Our baby,” she told the site.

Not only is Bishop Jones a pastor, he’s also the brother of model Grace Jones, and about six months or so ago, was rumored to be in a relationship with LisaRaye. That story was never confirmed or denied by either party but this one certainly was. I wonder how his congregation feels about this?

Interestingly, Stacy was just reportedly in an altercation with someone at a party in Atlanta over her parenting skills. A woman supposedly tried to take a picture of her, saying she was going to expose the fact that she was out partying late night with her 2-year-old daughter in tow, and the confrontation turned physical with the ladies fighting—in front of her daughter. All this, after the drama Stacy reportedly had with Whitney Houston over Ray J. She needs to sit her 42-year-old butt down somewhere.

Are you surprised to learn who her child’s father is?

Brande Victorian is the news and operations editor for madamenoire.com. Follow her on twitter @Be_Vic.

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If you know who Jay Electronica is, it’s either because you are a hip-hop fan and know his music or you know him as the father of Erykah Badu’s youngest child. But according to Daily Mail UK, he is in the center of a marriage breaking up.  According to Ben Goldsmith, his music producer wife and heiress to the Rothschild banking dynasty Kate has been carrying on an affair with Jay for about a year (he is one of her clients and apparently lives in London now) .  Ben claims he found very racy text messages and email exchanges between the two of them and after denying anything was going on for a little while, Kate finally admitted they were having an affair.

During their argument, Ben assaulted her and left the home. Upon his return, the police were there and arrested him on a domestic charge. Allegedly, Ben has always been very suspicious of Kate and Jay’s “friendship” because of the amount of time they’d been spending together.  Apparently he was right because sources say Kate has a slight obsession with Jay, calling him multiple times throughout the night and sometimes spending the night with him.

This is quite the scandal as Ben’s father is financial tycoon Jimmy Goldsmith and as previously mentioned, Kate is a Rothschild scion.  The couple, who has been married since 2003, have three children.

Jay Electronica always finds himself in the most precarious situations.

From Your Tango.com 

My affair with a married man lasted longer than most marriages. At 25 years, it certainly lasted longer than mine.

I met Sam in 1981 when I was 39 years old and going through a miserable divorce. My husband had left me and our 14-month-old daughter and didn’t want to pay even basic child support.

I needed a good lawyer. Two attorneys I knew and respected came up with the same name and same prophetic endorsement: “You two were made for each other.”

I began to develop feelings for him. I knew he was unavailable: a married man with a nice wife and grown children. But I was lonely and frightened—I hadn’t experienced a loss like this since my mother died when I was ten—and my heart spoke louder than anything in my head.

I persuaded him to come to my apartment by saying, “How can you make an argument about how much it costs me and my daughter to live without seeing our home?”

Feeble? Sure. But he bought it. Once he was in my bedroom, I reached out and began to unbutton his pants. “Oh no, not that. Anything but that,” he said in a soft but somber voice.

We started having lunch at my apartment, when my daughter and her babysitter were off at a toddler enrichment activity. Sometimes he would take the afternoon off and we’d go out to Coney Island. After we’d been seeing each other for two years, he gave me a custom-made gold and brown enamel ring with “Always” inscribed on the inside of the band.

His wife began to suspect he was having an affair and confronted him about it. It happened to be one of the few times we had quibbled about something and weren’t speaking to each other so he was able to tell her truthfully that it was over. She never asked again and he never updated his answer.

Being The Other Woman
My married friends, Arthur and Lynne, criticized me for settling for the role of The Other Woman. But the other woman was the role I knew best.

Read the rest of A.J’s story at Your Tango.com.

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Many people can’t help who they fall in love with–even if the person has a ring on their finger, a wife and a set of kids waiting at home for them, which should all be a stop sign for those wondering. However, when some folks fall, they fall HARD. And I’m assuming that’s what happened in these scenarios and relationships, whether temporary or still going strong, when these notable ladies decided to become the other woman (in the hopes of becoming the MAIN woman). Find out who made it past mistress status and who wasn’t so lucky to get more out of it than some heartache. And in our definition, yes, dating a man who isn’t divorced  (even if they’re separated) still kind of makes you the other woman…sorry.

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Sure, Gabrielle Union and Dwyane Wade are the cutest couple out right now, but a few years ago, Gabi was catching all kinds of heat from Wade’s wife Siohvaughn Funches for being the other woman. She felt this way even though their relationship was pretty much at its end. I’m pretty sure everyone remembers the lawsuit Funches unsuccessfully tried to file against Union, claiming that not only was she the reason the marriage was in shambles, but that Gabrielle and Dwyane engaged in sexual foreplay in front of Funches and Wade’s two sons when they were visiting with their father–allegedly causing emotional distress for the boys. The case was dismissed and Funches was shut down by the judge, even losing custody of her two sons.  It’s no secret that Gabi and Dwyane were together before the ink had dried and the divorce was fully in effect, but much to the chagrin of haters, these two are still going strong and even professing their love for one another on the cover of magazines.

OOo… this is a juicy question right? Say you stepped out on your spouse or partner and for one reason or another, they didn’t suspect a thing. You would think you’d be happy that you got away with it; but in reality the guilt is really weighing on you.

What should you do? Should you continue living with your dirty secret or should you confess your affair?

Find out what a relationship expert at Your Tango.com had to say about this one?

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