9 Reasons Why He’s Pulling Away From You

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November 22, 2011 ‐ By Kschlicher

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Have you ever dated a man where everything is going perfectly and you are bonding on every level, spending all your time together, and even making plans for the future, and then poof, he’s gone?!  Well believe it or not, this is a more common scenario that you might think.  Men feel pressure just like women do, and when it comes to relationships many men take flight, before they fight.  Take a look at these 8 reasons why he might be pulling away from you — to perhaps see if you can stop it.

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  • star

    Men are emotional cowards, control freaks even if it’s not their life to control. They are the ones destroying the love experience with their delusion that they are the head, so therefore what they says goes. Women allow men to decide their fate in this world because they’ve been told that their opinion is of less value…..Men are over-rated…I wonder what it’s like to date an alien????? *hmmm one can wonder*

  • http://www.facebook.com/lisa.harrisx Lisa Harris

    Katy, you should watch the “Why Men Pull Away” presentation at: WhyHePullsAway .info

  • Ray C

    I’m not agreeing with the work one or the one about seeing each other less. You can’t make one point that sex might naturally slow down after time then say it’s not cool for the time to slow down as well. When something is new you spend a lot of time on it. No matter what it is, you might spend every day or every week on something new then move to a more reasonable schedule. Everyone is all excited and gung-ho about new things. As for the work one, go back to the one about being clingy. For some of us going to work is almost as good as going out. It’s the only time to get away from you. That’s not to say it in a bad way, but I think someone in a relationship is just like a new superstar. They can get overexposed. That’s why a lot of men don’t try. We know women expect us to carry on whatever we do in the beginning. They let low expectations from the beginning. Seeing a person 7 days a week is not necessarily sustainable if you don’t live together.

  • ThinkAboutIt

    “The right guy will love you for who you are.” I wish I had learned this lesson about ten years ago. Looking back, there have been two gentlemen I have been in relationships with, who fit this principle. They liked me for me, appreciating not merely my outward appearance, but also the true “me”, the inner me. They were great catches, willing to work at the relationship. But because of my own distorted feelings of inadequacy, I pulled away myself, and let them go. Big mistake. I’ve received this same advice (find the one who loves and accepts you for who you are) from a happily married former classmate (female), and also from two elder gentlemen with decades of marriage under their belts. It is sage advice!

  • Hmmmmm

    “you don’t need to sell yourself to anyone.”

    That’s your problem.
    It’s 2011. Sitting and being cute and bright and educated aint enough….it’s very common and damn near close to the norm. Men, like women are asking “why should I spend the rest of my life with you?” And if you are not selling anything worth it many men (with options, that is)  feel like Gloria Steinem….”I need this like a fish needs a bike.”

    None of us are perfect the way we are and there is room for women to step it up like men. We all have to sell ourselves….at work and yes in relationships. All of us. Even all of the ladies. Yes, you are close to perfect in every way! But there is room for you to work on your  ish.

    Stop listening to your girls friends never-ending flattery and do some self-evaluation.

    • LaLaLaMeansILoveYou

      while you definitely make some good points, maybe it’s just the word “sell” that sounds a little off. Because when I hear that word, I think of car salesmen, commercials, etc…in a word (or two),  embellishment and in most cases FALSE ADVERTISING.

      Only allowing someone to see your best assets, but never the full story, is not healthy grounds for a relationship. Being yourself without “selling yourself” is what works for most SUCCESSFUL, SUSTAINED relationships I know of…including my own.
       

  • Ms_Sunshine9898

    exactly! lol, my boyfriend of 4 years just out of the blue said ok we had a good run, now i’m ready for something new. good luck finding a man that’ll treat you better than I would! men don’t want to commit when there is so much variety out there for them to sample and try, but at least he was honest. . . .