this article is crap, and was obviously written by someone who has no idea of what it takes to make a successful relationship…please, stop it…lol!!! this article sounds sooo childish

All I have to say about this superficial topic is… when you’re with the next person in a relationship just be you and rememberwhat went wrong (on both parties side) and don’t repeat it with the new person. Anyway, why would you talk about the ex with the next one? Keep that in the past where it belongs, unless you STILL have feelings for them?

I just enjoy life, stay away from drama, receive the love I’m getting and give it back. I don’t get involved with marrieds, intimate co-habitants or parents of the young. Using condoms decreases drama, entanglements and distractions from my ultimate goal of living sucker free and long. I’m respected and desired for some basic unwavering standards. My “not beatness” and ability to say no or walk away keePs me from getting played. Pursuing my own interests puts me around like minded individuals that I could potentially date.

Wow, I’m surprised that so many of the women have such strong (negative) opinions about this piece.  Are men not allowed to want better in their next relationship?  It should be assumed that anyone of quality wants quality…that with each new relationship we are wiser and better able to determine what we want and what will make us happy.  Instead of attacking the article and pointing the finger at men who do not deserve a woman of quality, try a more positive outlook and realize that a man who wants his next girlfriend to be better than the last, is a man who wants the relationship to be better than the last.  And perhaps, just perhaps HE wants to be better!  *shocker*  If he has come to the realization that he wants a woman who he does not have to entertain, make happy or argue with all the time, then he has come to the realization that those types of women will not move him to be the best possible man in the relationship that he can be.  I am in a very fulfilling and loving relationship with a man who constantly tells me how happy I make him and how much better I am than his ex (which by the way I feel the same about him), and in turn it makes me want to be an even better woman for him because he deserves it.  He is very loving, smart, generous and seXXY!  I’m a divorcee who decided I was not going to let my last relationship turn me into a negative woman.  I didn’t settle for less than what I deserve and in turn I found someone who also did not let his last relationship turn him into an A-hole, and that he wasn’t going to settle for less than what he deserved.  The result: two positive, happy people for 2 years who are proud to say that our mates are the best ever! 

My Bahamian Perspective:
Had some great points.  Nothng wrong with a woman knowing what her companion needs in order to make the realtionship work, I think we all need some help.  We just need to make sure that our actions are sincere, unconditional and make sure we can continue on that path.  Pretending who you’re not to get what you want, can be tiring.  We both need to be open with what we need from each other in order to have a healthy, lasting and rewarding relationship.Thanks for the tips

I love it.. Not that I compare ex’s but if you’re adding stress you can keep it moving… Cause that ish is for the birds… Women are attention needy by nature, while men just like things to be as simple as possible.. If youre upset say so, don’t be clingy those are instant turnoffs for me

Wow!  Can’t we all just get along. It is sad to see that this article caused nothing but divisiveness between the men and women that are responding. I am a woman and personally agree with not all, but a lot of the article. I know that if women have a more positive outlook regarding men and relationships they will attract more positive men and relationships, and a little advice never hurt anyone. I am blessed to be in a good relationship with a black man right now, but I decided to not limit myself to men of one race a long time ago for some of the same reasons that the women have mentioned, but I also know for a fact that there are good black men out there. Everyone can use some improvement but by no means, ladies do I think we should take offense by the sentiments of this article.

This article should be titled “7 ways he wants you to be PERFECT, while he continues to be Mediocre” or “7 ways society keeps telling Women how to act right to Keep or Get a Man” or 7 ways Men can get away with doing whatever they want to do, and the Women who love them”…I’m just saying, Women are constantly told how to act and what to look like in order to get “Chosen”…well Women are not the ones who need to be taught, we have been taught ENOUGH!!! So that answers all of your questions on ”Why aren’t there enough good men”??? Well that’s because we are demanding or asking VERY little of Men, we allow men to get away with being Average, and put so much pressure on ourselves to be perfect??? Why? this is the very reason some women continue to complain that there are not enough good men, well hmm i wonder why? because they don’t have to be, because they know you will accept anything.