Why You’re Attracted To Older Men

November 23, 2011  |  
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Some call it the “Sugar Daddy Syndrome” while others call it the “Daddy issues” complex and it seems like everybody has a strong opinion about it.  A lot of people have no problem with it, while many find it sick and perverted. Regardless of your own personal views, young women dating older men is a worldwide phenomenon that is gaining popularity and acceptance at an alarming rate.  But, why?  And what is attracting these young, attractive women, to settle down with slow-paced, elderly men?  We all know the gold-digger issue, but other than that, what gives?  Check out these 7 reasons women seem to be ditching the bar scene, and heading for the retirement center.


1. You crave financial stability

Older men are generally more financially stable tan younger men as they have had a longer time for education and experience in the work world.  It also means your life, as a woman, could be more secure and comfortable.  Let’s got forget the future either, he probably has some serious pension/social security money coming to him down the line too!

2. You lacked a father figure

Older men instinctively have paternal instincts and may pamper his spouse more than a younger man.  He will also take on some sort of authoritative role in your life and take charge.  Some women seek to find a man that reminds them of their father, whom they loved and admired throughout their childhood.  On the other hand, some women, who lacked a stable male figure while growing up, might still be on the hunt for this leadership role in their lives.  At a certain point they will stop looking for a father, and start looking for a mate.

3. You are attracted to maturity

Older men have generally been through more ups and downs in their lives and therefore act more mature than their younger counterparts.  Older men have made, or seen, all the mistakes made in the dating game and has, hopefully, learned what not to do.  At the same time, they experience some great times and know exactly how to treat a woman and respect her feelings.

4. Children are not your #1 priority

Older men often either already have children of their own, or may not be opento having more (or able to!).  Some young women find this very appealing and therefore find older men more attractive than younger men for a life-long mate.  Deciding to have children or not can be a huge stress in any relationship, financially, emotionally and physically. Children add a huge element to a couple’s life.  All of their focus is soon directed at their kiddo, instead of themselves.  For younger couples this idea of giving up the spotlight is less than appealing.  However, some women feel the pressure to have kids, yet truly have no desire to do so.  Enter the older man, who cannot, or will not have children.  A perfect fit.

5. You’re afraid of cheaters

With more life experiences, generally come more relationships.  Older men tend to be more devoted to their partners and normally do not run around flirting and sleeping with a bunch of women – they already did that in their 20s!  They’ve moved on from the promiscuous phase, and are actually ready to settle and ditch their boyish dating games.  Women who have a history of being cheated on, most likely still hold a paranoia and deep emotional scar that they are scared to have re-opened.  Typically, older men are less likely to cheat, but be sure that that behavior is not in their past.  Just because they are older, doesn’t mean they are saints, it only suggests that they are less likely to cheat than younger men.

6. You’re a tad bit lazy

Older men typically do not have the same kind of energy as younger men and therefore don’t need to be pleased in the bedroom as often.  He might also have enough bedroom experience to know exactly how to please you, so that your intimate time becomes more about quality than quantity.  Some younger women grow tired of dealing with inexperienced younger men, and therefore this scenario is perfect.

7. Chivalry is #1

If forgetting to pull out your chair or open up your door really is a deal breaker for you, then an older man might just be your ticket to chivalry-ville.  The generation before yours, and before that, grew up in a culture filled with male chivalry.  In movies, TV shows, and real life, men in the 1950s were not only trained to cater to women, it was the social norm.  If it really makes you mad when a man doesn’t let you walk through the door first, or doesn’t take your coat for you when you enter a building, then an old man accustomed to this behavior might be right for you.

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