Do you ever wonder why the family system is so inherently flawed? It seems like most people have some major issue with their parents. Some individuals don’t even have relationships with their parents, or at the very least, they hide most of the details of their lives from them because they don’t see eye to eye on things. How is it that the people we are supposed to love the most in life—and who are supposed to love us the most—are the same people we fight with the most? There is, of course, the simple fact that our parents just care so darn much about us that sometimes they hold on a little too tight when they’re just trying to help. But then there is this other little factor a lot of people don’t want to discuss: sometimes, we can’t get along with our parents because they had us for the wrong reasons, and that snuck up on them later in life and made them act out (on us). If you have kids for the wrong reasons, you’re bound to have less-than-great relationships with them. Here are absolutely wrong reasons to have kids.
Your career isn’t taking off
You aren’t getting as far as you’d hoped in your career, or at least not at the pace you’d hoped. Maybe you don’t even know what you want to do with your life. You’re watching your friends start businesses and develop software, while you feel like you’re not working on anything—you’re standing still. But having a baby feels like an accomplishment. Don’t forget that baby will turn into a teen who ignores you and a grownup who moves out, and you’ll still be left feeling a void. You may even then resent your child for taking from you the precious time you could have dedicated to your career.