To give him the digits or not to give him the digits? That is a question made significantly more serious today than, say, 15 years ago. Now that we all have cell phones, allowing someone to have your number now gives them access to reach you at anytime, anywhere. And considering the folks out there who will gladly abuse this privilege, you should think twice before allowing just anyone to get your number. Here are a few common scenarios in which the exchange of info may give you pause, along with our advice on how to proceed.
He Didn’t Ask Nicely: It doesn’t matter if a brother looks like Idris Elba, if he approaches you rudely, then you shouldn’t give him your contact information. Period. It’s one thing to be lacking in social graces, but it’s another to be a jerk. If he can’t even try to make a good first impression, what makes you think he’ll be a gentleman later on?
He Asked You At Work: If he’s a coworker, client or customer, be careful not to violate company policy or to be publicly flirtatious in front of others. If you feel safe making the transaction, keep it discreet.
He Dated Someone You Know: If you have any semblance of a relationship with an ex-flame of his, you should make sure it’s okay before potentially adding yourself to his ‘list’. If you are simply aware that he dated a girl who you see around, but don’t know personally, then you’re clear to go (so long as you know the relationship is over).
You Aren’t Quite Feeling Him, But He Seems Nice: DON’T DO IT! If you feel ‘blah’ about him, it’s unlikely that you’ll be excited to get a call from him. This could lead to unnecessary rudeness on your part. Don’t waste his time or yours. If he turns you off, don’t fake the funk.
You’ve Had Bad Experiences With Him: If this fella took your number and never called a year ago or somehow pissed you off when you first met, don’t be afraid to dodge a potential bullet by declining the chance to let him tick you off again.
