Signs He’s Still With You Because He’s Gotten Too Comfortable
Relationships wax and wane as they transition from short-term to long-term. No one tears each other’s clothes off every day (although, if you do, please leave us some tips in the comment section). Sometimes things are passionate, and sometimes life and responsibilities get in the way.
But if you find yourself in a situation that is all valleys and no peaks, you might have discovered the man in your life decided to settle in the relationship he has with you because it became comfortable–and he’s not happy.
Sure, some men aren’t very demonstrative. And other’s mean well but have funny ways of showing it. However, if his passion and interest levels have been hovering around a flat line for as long as you’ve been together, you may be dealing with more than just a moody personality.
We’ve all stayed in a relationship past its expiration date, and done so even though we had a feeling early on that it wasn’t going to work. But you should probably set yourself free if you’re dealing with a man who doesn’t treat you like you were his first choice for love.
He’s Got An Ex Who Has A Strong Influence On Him
And he has photos of her stashed in secret places that are leaving “the one that got away” vibes emanating from your significant other.
He Doesn’t Fight With You
He just lets you complain until you grow weary, and then he waits for the storm to blow over. Either you’ll get over it, or you’ll go, and he’s nonchalant about whatever route you decide to take.
There Are No Grand Romantic Gestures
But you’ve heard about the trips for two he’s planned in the past.
You Can’t Ask Him To Do Anything
Every favor is a chore, and if he does it, it’s with an attitude.
You’re Paying For Everything
Giving him a comfortable place to settle–on your dime.
He’s Developed Bad Habits
Or, rather, he’s stopped feeling the need to hide them because, in his mind, you can either deal with it or bounce.
He’s Not Into Marriage (Right Now)
For a lot of men, the idea of marriage sounds crazy — until they meet the one. But if he keeps telling you he’s not feeling the idea, you might not be the one.
He’s An Underacheiver
In his career, his education — and maybe even in his relationships. He might be a serial settler who’s prone to hanging back because it’s convenient, not because he’s found “the one.”
He Says He’s Not Going Anywhere
But that’s all he has to say when you’re smoothing over an argument.
You Just Have A Feeling
You know what passion is and this isn’t it. If long-term-but-close-to-platonic love isn’t your thing, it might be time to move on before you’re too settled into your situation to feel anything but regret.
You Haven’t Met His Family
Or his friends. In fact, he doesn’t seem excited enough to introduce you to anyone he really cares about.
The Sex Is Routine
Lights out, missionary, roll over and go to sleep. His lack of passion in the bedroom could reflect his lack of passion for your relationship.
He’s Reached A Certain Age
And a particular mindset that he should settle down because it’s time (not that he should settle down because you’re the right person to settle down with).
He Won’t Open Up
He’s willing to share his bed with you, but not his feelings.