Ways To Get Him To Be Better In Bed Without Hurting His Feelings
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In a perfect world, everyone would feel comfortable enough to ask for what they want from the first time they hop in the sack with someone. But the “everything you’re doing wrong” conversation can be a tough one to have when you haven’t been dating that long. What’s much easier? Asking him to have a seat in the “bad at sex” section of your phone book and never calling him again.
But if you do meet a guy who you’re willing to go over some hurdles with, it doesn’t have to be “awkward conversation” or “no more conversation at all.” Try these ways to improve common performance flaws without pointing the finger at where he’s falling short. Just a few of these ego-sparing tips may be just what you need to keep things as passionate in the bedroom as they are everywhere else.
Have any more tips and tricks to make him better in bed while sparing his feelings? Let us know in the comment section!
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It’s Over Too Soon
Sex shorter than you’d like? Let him finish first.
Heat things up with a strip tease and then tell him you want to see how he handles it. Then, when he’s gearing up for a second round he can focus on foreplay before a much longer session.
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He’s A Terrible Kisser
Play a game of show and tell. Kiss him the way you like to be kissed and then say, “Now do that to me.” It’s a fun game that will help him pick up on what you like without criticizing his kisses.
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So Much Slobber
Simply say, “Hold on,” grab a towel and wipe your mouth. Chances are, he’ll ask you if it’s too wet and dial things down from there. Want to go really incognito? Feed him something salty before your next makeout session and see if that helps.
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He’s Very Narrow
You might need Kegels to make it work. Want to really step up your squeeze game? Try kegel weights.
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He’s A Nipple Killer
Found a guy who likes to flick and chew? Try doing the same thing to his. Once he sees how it feels, hopefully, he’ll lighten up. Then ask him to show you what he likes and he’ll treat the girls more gently.
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He’s A Jackhammer
Try putting on some slow music and getting on top. While you’re slowing things down, tell him and show him how much more you like it when things go slow.
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He’s Clueless
Some guys seem to know intuitively what you like. Others? Not so much. To fix a lover who doesn’t seem to know where to put his hands, try phone sex. Describe what you like when you’ve got him on the line and finish by saying you can’t wait for him to try that next time.
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You’re Not Reaching The Big “O”
Try one of these positions designed to hit your g-spot.
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You Want Something Completely Different
Ready for something a little kinkier? Or a lot more soft and gentle? Just find a flick where they’re going at it the way you like. Then invite him over for a little YouPorn and chill and play follow the leader.
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He Doesn’t Focus On What Works
Every time you’re almost there, does he wander off? Clue him in to what feels great with encouraging sounds or a more direct “Don’t stop.”
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Things Are Getting Way Too Deep
Too big is a nice problem to have, but it can still be a problem if things aren’t always comfortable. Try focusing on these positions to calm things down while you’re still warming up. Have the opposite problem? There are positions for that too.
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You’re Struggling With Chemistry
Some fires take longer to build. Try doing these passion-inducing activities together before you hit the sack.
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He Likes To Play Human Pretzel
Tired of saying “My leg doesn’t bend that way?” Try a “No touching” policy. Treat it as an alluring way for you to tease him while you control the positions.
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When All Else Has Failed…
You’ve tried dropping hints. Now it’s time to have a glass of wine and lay your cards on the table. It’s better to know that things aren’t going to work sooner rather than later.
