Ways Not to Obsess Over A New Guy In Your Life
How Not To Obsess Over A New Guy
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It happens all the time: you meet a guy and right away you’re kind of sure he’s something special. You think about him at work, after work, on the ride home — pretty much all the time. But you haven’t actually spent any time with him.
And that’s not always a good thing. Before you let a guy monopolize your thoughts, it’s better to make sure he’s worth it first.
When you build a guy up in your mind, it can stop you from seeing the real him. Sometimes it’s better to put a new guy on the back burner until his actions prove that he’s worthy. A little skepticism can go a long way toward protecting your heart before you’re too invested (or texting him back to back).
Sound easier said than actually done? Here’s how not to obsess over a new guy until he proves he’s worth it.
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Stop Giving the Phone Attention
Put it on vibrate, stuff it in your purse and do something interesting you can talk about the next time you actually see each other.
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Ditch the Waiting Period
Instead of spending three days hoping he’s as compatible as he looks, just call him up. You won’t build your hopes up with anticipation and you’ll start the relationship on a more straightforward foot.
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But Wait for Him to Text Back
It will give you a better sense of how long he can go without touching base with you. It’s better to know now if he’s only going to text you after 10 pm.
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Don’t Pursue Your PhD In Textology
Instead of trying to read into his texts, wait to get excited until he shows you unmistakable emotion.
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Know That It Is What It Is
Trying to transform a hookup into a relationship is a good recipe for hurt feelings. If things are going to change, let him take the lead. Otherwise, it might be time to move on.
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Shift Him From the Center
Fill your day with activities to keep him from being the center of your focus. Enjoy your single life so much that he’s inspired to join it, or that you’ll be happy to get back to it if this doesn’t work out.
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Branch Out
When you’re in the market, seeing several people will keep you from obsessing over one (and help you judge who’s really better through comparison).
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Work Out
Sometimes obsessing over a new guy is just part of our natural anxieties. Try cardio as a natural de-stressing tool that will help you think more clearly.
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Stay In The Moment
Have a tendency to go from the first date to planning your wedding? Focus on living in the now to make sure you’re enjoying it before you invent your future.
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Don’t Even Plan Your Next Date
If he doesn’t make first or second date plans right away, give him some space — even if control is your natural impulse. Let him take the lead early to get to know him better.
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Don’t Make Any First Moves When Your Emotions Are Running High
Try your best to ignore the voice that says text him again, even if you have to run away from it at the gym.
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Have a Friend Intervene
BFFs make great distractions and give even better advice.
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Or Have a Male Friend Gauge His Behavior
Sometimes it takes an expert on male behavior to tell if a guy is really worth your time.
