Celebrity Women On Why You Should Never Fake The “Big O”
Is the secret to having more orgasms demanding them? These celebrity women say they demand an orgasm every time — and it has transformed their sex lives.
Comedian Amy Schumer said that orgasms should never be optional – and gave Glamour the real deal:
“Make sure he knows that you’re entitled to an orgasm. I like to say it. I’ll be like, ‘Hey, there are two people here.’ I’ll be like, ‘Oh my God, have you met my clit?’ Don’t be self-conscious.”
Masters of Sex star Lizzy Caplan said that settling for faking it instead of having the multiple-orgasm holy grail is just foolishness:
“The female body is far better equipped for sex than the male body. Women can have multiple orgasms; men cannot. They’re actually athletes, not men.”
Nicki Minaj recently told Cosmopolitan that she doesn’t play around when it comes to the big “O” — and you shouldn’t either:
“I demand that I climax. I think women should demand that. I have a friend who’s never had an orgasm in her life. In her life! That hurts my heart. It’s cuckoo to me.”
In her book Yes, Please, Amy Poehler asserted that the ability to fake it is not a good thing for any woman:
“Try not to fake it: I know you are tired/nervous/eager to please/unsure of how to get there. Just remember to allow yourself real pleasure and not worry about how long it takes…
God punished us with the gift of being able to fake it. Show God who the real boss is by getting off and getting yours.”
Halle Berry told Esquire that every woman is responsible for her own orgasms and instructing a man on how to get her there:
“Ah, yes: the big O. You know that stuff they say about a woman being responsible for her own orgasms? That’s all true. And in my case, that makes me responsible for pretty da–ed good orgasms these days.
Much better orgasms than when I was twenty-two. And I wouldn’t let a man control that. Not anymore. Now I’d invite him to participate. I’ll tell you this: I’ve learned my tricks. I know what I like. I do not wait around. I initiate. And I’m not all about frequency. I favor intensity.”
Comedian Margaret Cho said she faked orgasms so much she forgot how to have real ones. But now she’s learned her lesson:
“It’s hard to go back and correct that. I don’t bother with that anymore. I never fake it, and I am sure sometimes people would wish that I did, but I don’t care.”
Actress Rashida Jones said that, to her, faking it means being “sexualized,” not being “sexual.”
She told The Wrap that if women are just there for his pleasure and not their own, it’s really all about him. And that’s no fun.
Kim Cattrall said that not demanding an orgasm is allowing men to miss out on an important bit of education.
In her 2002 book, Satisfaction: The Art of the Female Orgasm she said, “I believe that a man should know how to make a woman experience orgasm until she is truly satisfied.”
Beyonce told OUT magazine that the days of the “old lessons of submissiveness and fragility” should be long gone. Women should stop being submissive and “own their sexuality” because there’s “unbelievable power in ownership.”
Actress Zoe Saldana told Cosmopolitan that the key to taking control of your orgasm is to lose your insecurities by working on getting good at sex instead of faking your way through.
Eva Longoria said the best place to start with orgasms on demand is to teach yourself. And it took her a while to figure that out. She told Self:
“I didn’t begin enjoying sex until I started masturbating. Before that, I really wasn’t sexual. I bought my first vibrator three years ago.
It’s a shame I didn’t discover it sooner. Now I give Rabbit vibrators to all my girlfriends. They scream when they unwrap it. The best gift I can give them is an orgasm.”
Actress and comedian Anna Farris said you shouldn’t fake an orgasm because you look crazy when you do. Check out her “dying hyena” impression and get ready to laugh out loud.
Need proof that making a man work for it is a good thing?
Actor John Stamos told Us that focusing on a woman’s pleasure has improved his sex drive drastically.
“I’d rather have a woman have ten orgasms than me have ten orgasms…
I’m fifty-one years old. I’ve had some experiences but it’s about listening, asking, talking … Maybe some girls are afraid of communicating. But I find most aren’t if you ask, ‘Does this feel good?’ Or listen to her body like an instrument.”