Why Men Always Think You're Hitting On Them

You tell them what a great catch they are

You genuinely hope they know how awesome they are because you think they deserve a loyal and loving girlfriend. So you tell them all of the time. And they think you want to be their girlfriend.

You blow up their social media

You’re very supportive, so you like everything they post on social media. You follow them on all their platforms. You post things to their wall. You’re just supportive…but that’s not how they see it.

You remember little things

You’re just a thoughtful person. When you see John, who you know loves brownies, you make him brownies. Now he thinks you want him to be your man.

You send them emails, just for fun

You find an article or video you think a friend would like or find funny, so you send it his way. He reads this as “She thinks about me all of the time.”

You text them about nothing at all

Something funny reminds you of a guy friend, so you text him about it. Again, he thinks you think about him constantly.

You ask them a lot of questions

You believe in making people feel welcome and like you care about what’s going on with them. So when you meet a new guy, you ask him lots of questions about himself. He sees this as you showing interest.

You buy rounds of drinks

This is your way of saying, “We’re just friends! I don’t even expect you to buy me drinks.” But he sees this as you trying to make a move on him.

You change in front of them

You may think it’s obvious to a guy that you don’t want to sleep with him if you’re willing to change in front of him. But he thinks…well he’s not thinking. You’re half-naked!

You’re protective about who they date

Again, you know what a great guy your friend is so you only want the best for him. If you see him date a woman who mistreats him, you become indignant. He sees this as jealousy.

You listen intently

You’re just trying to be polite, so you nod a lot. You say, “Mhmmm.” You listen closely. He thinks you’re really feeling him (and possibly daydreaming about sleeping with him).

You make direct eye contact

Again, you’re just trying to be courteous when he’s speaking to you. He thinks you’re trying to give him the eye.

You give long, tight hugs

When you run into them, you hug men and women that you like for a long time, and very tight. But he reads your close hugs a lot differently. 

You accept their flirtatious invites 

When a male friend offers to make you dinner, or invites you out for drinks, you say yes. You think you’re strengthening a friendship; he thinks he’s making progress with you.

You obliviously accept their compliments

When a guy tells you that you look gorgeous, or your outfit really compliments your curves, you just think, “What a sweet thing to say!” You thank him. He thinks you just gave him permission to keep checking you out.

You laugh at everything they say

What? It was a funny joke! Unfortunately, some men just read everything kind and polite we do as flirtatious. We just can’t win.