In my last relationship, I chose to ignore red flags. I turned the other cheek to the warning signs that blared, “He isn’t the one!” and remained committed to the relationship. I could make this work, I thought. So what if he isn’t as affectionate as I’d like. We can work on the lack of sexual chemistry, can’t we? Because he’s a good man, I convinced myself.
Blame it on being self-sacrificial, optimistic or an emotional masochist but I really wanted my relationship to work. It didn’t. And with good reason. We are too different. I needed something else that he couldn’t provide. I realized this a week shy of our year anniversary. I stared at my reflection in the bathroom mirror and asked, “Is this the kind of relationship you want forever? Can you be with him forever as he is?” No, I replied. And that was the beginning of the end.
We all do this. Women often convince themselves that they can change a man. In relationships, we ignore red flags and obvious dealbreakers. But no more, ladies! I am here to share seven relationship deal breakers women should never ignore.
