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There’s nothing wrong with a career-oriented man: he’s less likely to financially depend on you and he has a passion for something, which is always attractive. But, some men never fully appreciate how a romantic relationship not only doesn’t detract from their career but can enhance it. Those men leave their partners feeling under-prioritized. Here are 7 signs your guy puts his career before you too much.
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He always asks who will be at the party
When you invite your partner to a friend’s birthday, or your parents’ anniversary, or perhaps your own work party, he wants a roster of the other attendees, he wants to know what they do, whom they’re married to, what college they went to, etc.
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What it means
If your partner refuses to go to a party before knowing exactly who will be there, he’s trying to make sure the party will be “worth his time” in the networking sense. He doesn’t want to go anywhere where he won’t meet people who could potentially advance his career. In other words, the fact that his presence would make you happy isn’t enough of a reason for him to go.
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He asks you to do uncomfortable favors for him
He asks you to pull in favors that are uncomfortable for you—like ask your boss to introduce him to someone of importance in his field of work, or asks you to help get him a pass to an event he really shouldn’t be at in some sneaky manner—even after you’ve told him several times you’d really rather not.
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What it means
Your partner would rather advance his career than keep the peace alive in his relationship with you. He doesn’t mind having you do something that could potentially tarnish your reputation, or strain a relationship you have, or even get you in trouble at work. And if he doesn’t care about your personal well-being, he certainly doesn’t care about the well-being of the relationship.
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He cancels long-standing dates at the last minute
A networking opportunity comes up, or one of the partners at his company invites him on a boat trip, and he says yes. Even though it’s your birthday weekend and you’ve had a romantic trip planned for months.
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What it means
It’s one thing if an emergency comes up at work, but your partner shouldn’t be cancelling plans that mean a lot to you, and that would really bond you as a couple, for a networking opportunity that can come again.
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He won’t shake his bad mood from work
You two have a date night, but your partner had a bad day at work. He’s in a terrible mood the entire night. You try to talk about your day, or tell him a funny story, but he barely speaks, or brushes you off, or even gets agitated with you. All he wants to do is complain about his job, or he’d rather not talk at all.
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What it means
Your happiness is not important enough to your partner for him to suck it up and put on a happy face. He won’t engage in the relationship enough to put work out of his mind for just a few hours. In fact, he doesn’t even mind that his bad mood is rubbing off on you, that he’s giving you anxiety and that he’s making you feel like you’ve done something wrong.
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He pressures you to come with him to work events
Your partner wants you on his arm at a big work event or a gala where there will be a lot of networking opportunities for him. But it’s your best friend’s birthday party. Meanwhile he whines and says things like, “If you really care about my career you’d come!”
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What it means
Your partner straight up thinks his life is more important than yours. He doesn’t care that, the entire evening at his event, you’ll be feeling guilty for missing your friend’s party. He doesn’t care that he just potentially strained an important relationship of yours. All he cares about is that he looks good with a pretty date on his arm, and that you’re there for him to complain to or vent to, and he doesn’t matter at what cost that comes to you.
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He talks work stuff when he really shouldn’t
It’s your birthday party. You just want everyone to get drunk, have fun and sing karaoke. But every time you stumble into a conversation your partner is having, he’s getting industry tips from one person, or finding out if your friends know anyone of importance they can introduce him to.
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What it means
He doesn’t mind stealing the spotlight from you! On a night that’s supposed to be about you—or even a night that you’ve set up for your friends to just relax at and not think about work—he has no issues with ruining the vibe.
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He won’t figure out a time to see you in advance
Your partner is always asking you at the last minute to do things, and if you say you can’t, and point out that he didn’t give you enough notice, he just gets upset and says that you don’t understand his busy schedule.
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What it means
Your relationship does not mean enough to your partner for him to sit down for ten minutes at the beginning of the week, figure out what pockets of time he has to put aside to be with you, and call you and make plans. He’d rather just charge through his life, doing what he wants when he wants, and force you to be there for him when he says so.
