How to Raise a Troubled Young Girl

5) Enforce limits and reward positive behavior

The type of relationship you may have with a young lady in your life will determine the limits.  You might be an older sister, an aunt, a teacher or a mentor and it is up to you to determine the behavior that is acceptable in that relationship.  If you are a professional, consider the effect that giving out your cell phone number or becoming a Facebook friend might have.  Ask yourself whether these types of actions are necessary. Establish boundaries from the very beginning and leave little room for flexibility.  Respect their boundaries as well; they too are entitled to their own privacy, and honestly there are some things that you shouldn’t and probably wouldn’t want to know.

One of the best ways you can discourage negative behavior is by rewarding positive behavior.  Many young people are grateful for what some of us might consider the little things:  a gift card to a favorite store, dinner at a local restaurant or even some extra privileges.  Most important, recognize their accomplishments and efforts.  This can help build self-esteem and self-worth.