There is something to be said for the woman who puts forth a little extra effort to keep a man captivated even after she’s already bagged him. I’m not talking about jumping through hoops and hurdles to make oneself some sort of sex goddess or perfect girlfriend, but instead, simply taking a proactive approach to keeping him excited about the relationship. Here are a few ways to keep the magic around you even after he can paint a picture of you naked with his eyes closed:
Maintain an Air of Mystery: Just when he’s figured out that the best time to hit you with the ‘shoulder tap’ is just after your evening bath, switch it up and start tapping at him when you first wake up. Introduce him to a favorite restaurant on a quaint little block that you never told him about. If you’re a apple martini girl, switch it up from time to time and join him for a Hennessy on the rocks. Purchase a dress in a bold, bright color that you usually don’t wear. Small gestures which provide a little break from your routine can intensify his cravings for you; they keep him on his toes and bring a little freshness to the table, which is a great way to keep the spark lit even once it’s no longer new.
If You Want It, Go Get It: Never should a gentleman be the only one to intiate sex. Show him that you are just as hot for his body as he is for yours by showing up to his house for a dinner date and stripping your clothes off as soon as you get in the door. Grab his thigh as you drive home and tell him how you can’t wait to get to bed. Send an “I want you” text message at 12pm on a Wednesday. Be sexually present, available and agressive.
Learn Him: By both making quiet observations and asking questions, you should be able to figure out what your beau’s turn-ons are, his pet peeves and his desires. Use this information to be a better partner (he should be doing the same for you, of course). Touch his hot spots. Wear the hairstyle he loves the most when he sees you for special date nights. Learn to make the dish he mentioned he loves but can’t find in his neighborhood. He’ll be impressed and touched by your attention to his thoughts and he’ll feel truly comfortable with and connected to you- key factors for keeping a man hooked.
Come Up for Air: By taking a little time apart, he’ll have the space to long for you. If you’ve been on a 10-day love bender, schedule a few days to sleep at your own house and to hang out with friends or do school/work related tasks. Absence truly does make the heart (and loins) grow fonder; just make sure that you are still communicating with him, as you don’t want to make it seem like you are dipping out for good.
