14 Things Men Look For On The First Date - Page 2

We have all been on one of those dates when we think things go just fine yet later that night and into the days that follow, you hear very little from the man you went on the date with. Men can sometimes be simple-minded, and when it comes to the first date, it’s been said that it takes a man no more than 20 minutes to decide whether or not he will want a second date with a woman or not. No matter if it’s a blind date, a double date, or the first date after meeting online, there are some definite criteria that men look for when they are on a date with women. Here are 14 things most men look for during the first date.

Self-confidence

There is nothing hotter than a woman who is confident in who she is. Most men want to avoid women who have a lot of self-doubt and low self esteem. Be proud of who you are, let your confidence show, and you’ll really impress a man.

Compliments

Just as women want compliments, men want them as well. During the first date a lot of men look for a woman who is willing to take as well as give compliments. So when a guy says that you look great or that you have a beautiful smile, don’t hesitate to shoot a compliment right back at home. Giving and taking compliments shows that you’re interested and that you’re not overly self-absorbed.

A non-complainer

Your food is too cold. Your drink is too watered down. Your job sucks and doesn’t pay you enough. You hate your new purse. There is nothing worse than going on a date with a woman who does nothing but gripe and complain. Sure, we all have things that we need to vent about, but complaining on a first date definitely sets the wrong mood. Men look for a woman who doesn’t appear to be a big complainer who gets upset about anything and everything.

Sincerity

Just like men, some women are also guilty of just saying things get what they want. Maybe you want to impress this man as much as possible so you tell white lies to get your way. Whatever the case may be, men can often see through the lies and the fake emotions. During the first date, men look for a women who is sincere in her words as well as her thoughts. If you aren’t compassionate about animals, then don’t say it just to appease him. Or if he isn’t your type to a T, don’t sugarcoat it and tell him that he’s the perfect man for you.

Steady conversation

First dates are all about getting to know each other. Any date can become problematic when the conversation becomes boring or just flat out one-sided. To keep him interested and to show that you’re interested as well,  it’s important that the two of you make an effort to have steady conversation. Men look for a women who can answer questions as well as ask questions. No one wants to be on a date where the conversation is slow, awkward, and lead by just one person.

Generosity

Going dutch has always been a huge debate. However, after a $120 date combined with plenty of drinks and high class food, the least any woman can do, in a man’s eyes, is offer to chip in some kind of money. Maybe you offer to pay the tip of maybe you decide to pay for drinks. Whatever it is, the fact that you’re even offering to pay shows a man that you’re generous and willing to meet him halfway. Some guys will, of course, refuse having you pay for anything, but to a man, it’s the offer to pay for something that really counts and makes a lasting impression.

Baggage-free

No man wants to go on a date with a woman who talks about her ex, even if you mention him just once. Going on a date and being part of the dating world should mean that you are well over your ex. Men who end up on a date with a woman who vents about her ex typically go into full on ignore mode once that happens. Men look for a woman who may have some baggage, but doesn’t let that baggage impact her current dating status and experiences.

Engagement

The whole idea behind going on a date is being able to spend one-on-one time with someone to get to know them better and to see what kind of physical vibes there are. Men want a woman who is engaging as well as a woman who is willing to engage herself in the date. No man or woman wants to be on a date with someone who is distracted or preoccupied. If you’re texting every other minute or if you’re more focused on the waiter who is servicing the other side of the restaurant, your lack of engagement can easily be picked up on.

A unique trait

Whether you want to admit it or not, we all have our quirks. When a man is on the dating scene, he isn’t looking to find the cookie cutter woman. Instead, he’s looking for one who stands out from the crowd and has some uniqueness to her. When you’re on a date, don’t be afraid to let your quirks show or to talk about the things that sets you apart from other women. Maybe you love to bake or maybe you’re a history buff in hiding. Whatever your quirk may be, embrace it.

Sexiness

On a first date, no woman wants to appear to be out on the prowl and looking for some time between the sheets. However, there are plenty of ways to be sexay without overdoing it. Men look for a woman who can be sexay without even trying. There’s no need to wear extremely revealing clothing or to talk sexually. Wear some nice perfume. Accent your eyes with some makeup. Wear a pop of red, either on the lips or on your nails. All of these things convey sexiness without going overboard.

Independence

Men like women who are independent and successful. There’s nothing hotter than a woman who has her life in line with a good job, items of her own, and an education. Having independence shows that you are not only in control of your life, but it also shows that you have the drive to succeed and to make a name for yourself. Independence is definitely attractive to a man, so don’t be afraid to flaunt your career or your degree.

A woman who says “thank you”

Some men love to prove that chivalry isn’t dead. However, there are some women out there who expect chivalry without any expectation of saying thank you. When a man holds the door for you or scoots out your chair before you sit down, don’t think twice about saying thank you. A man likes to know that his actions are appreciated, so a thank you here and there can definitely go a long way, especially on the first date.

A women who dresses nicely

A lot of women think that when dressing for a date, the sexier and the more revealing, the better. The truth is, men look for a woman who can dress sexily without looking like she belongs at the club down the road. Though you may not think it, the man you meet on your date will definitely look at and remember what you wore. Make sure that you wear something classy that shows off your figure without looking trashy.