How to bring it up
Odds are something your partner has said or done has ignited one of your insecurities. He didn’t mean to do it—it was a perfectly harmless thing he did—but, those negative feelings are bubbling up inside of you. Always start by telling your partner about the experience in the past that developed this insecurity in you. Let him know that it’s not his fault. Say, for example, you discovered a past boyfriend was flirting with another woman via text, and now you get anxiety if your new partner leaves the room for phone calls. Tell your partner that story. And then say, “So if I ever seem weird when you do that, just know that that’s why. And when you can, stay in the room for your calls.” There are often very easy fixes that your partner can do, to ease your insecurities, without asking him anything unreasonable.