Damn, he looks fine, especially in those jeans, that hat, and uhhh, those lips…it doesn’t matter that he has multiple baby mamas, wants to be ‘just ‘riends’ or never asks me what I’m up too. Yup, I’m still gonna get with him! Sound familiar? It should…because every woman goes through that situation where a man just seems way too attractive to pass up, even though he’s clearly a jerk. Well, guess what ladies? It doesn’t always have to end up that way. You can avoid getting your heart crushed if you actually stay strong and avoid these warning signs. Of course if you’re a female who is also looking to get freaky, this won’t apply to you. However, if you are actually looking for a serious relationship based on more than just sex, here are some reasons you shouldn’t get with certain men. In other words, these scenarios will likely all lead to your feelings getting hurt.
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He says he just wants to be friends
We’ve all heard this one before, he wants to be just “friends,” except for him, “friends” means still getting in your pants. Sure you might also want to be just “friends” initially, but it’s extremely easy to crossover into the wanting more than friends territory. This means that in the end, it will likely be your feelings that get hurt, not his…
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He has multiple children with multiple women
Does being baby mama number 10 sounds exciting? Not really…well, that’s what will happen if you get caught up with a man who clearly cannot keep a stable relationship, and doesn’t like to wrap it up either. Let’s not even get started on all the baby mama drama you’ll also have to deal with…
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He only contacts you at night
A good guy not only cares about how your night is going, but also about how your day is going. As the saying goes, “The Freaks come out at night,” so if that’s the only time he contacts you, don’t be surprised if it’s only because his freaky side is ready to freak, or should we say creep?
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He never tries to have real conversation with you
“Yo, what’s going on?” “Nothing, just chillin’.” “Wanna meet up?” “Umm, okay.” Sound familiar? Do your conversations start and end with what your plans are for the evening? Well, sorry, hate to break to news, but if he never tries to talk to you about anything other than what your plans are for the night, it’s because he’s not interested in anything else you have to offer, other than what the “plans” are that is. ***cough***booty call***cough***
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He tries to get into your pants on the first date
Some people are not willing to kiss on the first date, let alone go to bed with each other, but you’d be surprised how many men will still attempt this one. It usually is initiated with a “Want me to come in?” at that point when you should be saying, “Thanks for a wonderful time, goodnight.” Sure it could seem like hot steamy fun, but even Fifty Shades didn’t attempt this one…
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He’s still “friends” with his ex
Ever heard a man hesitate when you asked them if they still talk to their ex? Well, that hesitation is your clue that something is not right about the situation. If a man is still “friends” with his ex, they likely still have feelings for each other. You’re either some sort of rebound or some sort of fling.
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He’s married
You would think this one would be obvious, but men wouldn’t be able to cheat on their wives if there weren’t willing participants. He might claim that he’s leaving his wife, or claim that he doesn’t love her anymore, but unless those divorce papers are final, you will always be a side chick until further notice. Not good if you want to be someone’s main squeeze…
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You meet him a club while he’s drunk
Drinks can significantly change how a man perceives you. Don’t take this the wrong way though, it doesn’t automatically mean that you’re unattractive, but rather that he’s likely not seeing you for the real you. If you do happen to exchange numbers, wait until he sobers up before you give him a call.
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He never wants to hang out with you in public
With guys like this, you would think you had asked them to take you on a tropical vacation or something, but no, all you wanted was a dinner date, maybe a movie, or even just a walk in the park. Somehow, this seems like too much to ask, and he keeps trying to convince you to just hang out at home. Unfortunately in these circumstances, he’s either embarrassed by you, or is dating someone else. Therefore, you will likely never have the type of relationship with him that you’re hoping for.
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He’s been with one of your friends
How often do you see people who married their friends ex? Or that they’re in a serious relationship with an ex of a friend? Not often right? That’s because very rarely do these sorts of relationships work…
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He’s been with a lot of women
Sure some men can change, but why should you be the guinea pig that sees if it’s true? If you’re looking for a serious relationship, you’re odds are better with someone who has a history of decent relationships. Of course nothing is ever guaranteed, but why set yourself up for failure?
