Head is a hot topic around these parts, huh? Another reader is having a cunninlingus condundrum:
Help me Sister Toldja!
My man sucks at going down on me. It’s awful and boring. I don’t want to hurt his feelings, but I really enjoy getting (and recieving) oral pleasure…but there is nothing pleasureable about what he does down there. If women got erections, I wouldn’t be able to keep mine while he was down there licking my honeypot like an uninspired stray puppy. Please give me some tips on how I can get him to do this thing correctly!
Poor thing. Bad head < no head at all! Here are a couple of tips to get that mouth on the right track…
1) Grab his hand and say “I want you to lick me like this” and then, demonstrate the sort of tongue strokes you want down there.
2) If you don’t already, take a little time to do some self-explanation and be able to verbalize where you want his energies to focus.
3) Your body is your temple, so it’s up to you to give guided tours. Guide his head to the place that makes your moan and shiver. Make sure that you are good and vocal about what he’s doing. Be clear in your instructions, yet add a little softness so you don’t sound like a drill sargent. Try: “Right there! Keep your tongue right there”, “Slower, sweetie!“, etc.
4) Pair up suggestions and criticisms with compliments, so that the former is a little easier to swallow. For example: “Baby, I love how xyz feels. Can you do it a little slower? I want to take my time and enjoy this.”
