Do You Choose Men Like Your Father? Why That Can Be Good & Bad

Does your mom play the victim?

If your parents divorced, your dad left, your dad cheated, or for some reason your mom just doesn’t like the guy—and you ended up in her custody or spending the most time with her—you might form a biased opinion of him. Maybe he did cheat, maybe he left, and maybe he was mean to your mom. But, think about it this way: you probably know certain couples today that have problems, but to you, who the good guy and the bad guy is is not black and white. Why? Because you met these people at a time in your life when you had developed skills to analyze people—their behaviors, their motives, and their mentality. If you’ve been fed the idea since childhood that your dad is “bad,” it can be hard to shake that and you don’t really apply your analytical skills to him—your opinion of him was set in stone at a young age. Like with point #1, you might start to only associate negative traits with your father’s surface traits, because the negative is all your mother talks about.