3 Must-Have Conversations To Have With Your Summer Fling Before The Heat Fades - Page 2
2. Is this lust or something more?
Summer flings are known for being more physical than emotional, but what if you’re catching feelings? Here’s a tip, according to relationship expert Tam Kaur. One way to tell where things are headed is to pay attention to how your partner speaks to you. Are their compliments only about your looks, or do they go deeper?
“If the only thing they compliment is superficial, that’s not romance, it’s objectification dressed up as interest,” Kaur told Vice on July 29. “Watch where their eyes go when you’re speaking and see if they are truly listening, or if their eyes are wandering or darting around the room.”
If you feel more objectified than pursued, it’s a sign this fling likely won’t last past Labor Day, Kaur added. True interest feels intentional and respectful. Now, if you’re someone who values commitment, don’t hide your desires just to keep things light. Speak out about what you want. Your fling’s response or reaction will tell you if they are on board.
“If they flinch every time something referencing the future comes up, that’s your answer,” Kaur said. “Someone who truly wants you will naturally include you in their plans, not just for Saturday night, but for what’s next.”
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