When Your Mother Wasn’t A Strong Female Role Model
I recently attended a talk on financial wellness lead by a woman who is honestly such a boss. She’s the head of the wealth management team at a massive bank—a real powerhouse I’d love to emulate. She asked if any of us knew who some of the self-made female billionaires in the world are. Someone was surprised to learn that Kylie Jenner is one of them. Say what you may about Kylie but, she did do some pretty smart things with the assets given to her (and I do understand she had quite a head start that most of us do not). But, the woman leading the talk said this and it really struck me: “Well, it’s just a look at what having a strong female role model can do for you.” She was talking about Kris Jenner. Again, we probably all have mixed feelings about this family but one thing is for certain: Kris did not raise her daughters to be meek, submissive women who should just wait around for a rich husband to rescue them. And I…well…I had a mother who sort of did raise me to be that way. Here’s a bit on my experience with that, as I think many women may share it.
First off, she didn’t work
The fact is this: my mom didn’t have a career. My American father found her in Europe when she was in her late twenties, he moved her to the United States, he built her a big house with a pool, and he asked her to stop working. He wanted a wife who’d be home when he got home, and who’d be available to spend time with him on the evenings and weekends. And she agreed. So I didn’t witness a mother who was working hard at a career.