Dating Horror Story is a new column on MadameNoire that gives women space to vent and air out all of their horrible dating experiences. If you have a dating horror story you would like to anonymously submit, email our Love & Relationships editor at firstname.lastname@example.org. ***Names and details have been adjusted for anonymity.
***Amber thought she had finally met a great guy when she connected with a man named ***Jones via Tinder. Even though she lives and works in Atlanta, she was home in LA one weekend and decided to start swiping on the app, and surprisingly matched with someone from her hometown. Tinder works based on proximity, so although the pair felt a spark, they knew their courtship would be a long distance one. They decided to talk over the phone and FaceTime for almost three months, until Amber finally returned home to LA to meet him in real life. Their long anticipated first meet up was suddenly soured, when Jones revealed he had to share something with her before they met face to face.
Jones decided to reveal this whole time he was married with kids….via text! And with his confession, he was still hoping Amber would agree to meet up with him. He explained that he was on Tinder not thinking anything would go “this far.” Well he was wrong. Very wrong. Amber, of course, was not having it. After she ignored him for awhile, he eventually sent Michelle Obama’s “Becoming” to her office as a way to make amends. She of course read the book, but left him on ‘read’ permanently.
You can read the text exchange here: