I have a pretty high motor, which is great for my work life but not so great for the other areas of my life. Living a go-go-go lifestyle makes me happy. I like to squeeze as much juice out of each day as possible. If I have a social engagement in one part of town, I immediately start asking myself what errands I could run while I’m over there, or if there’s another friend who lives in the area to whom I could pay a quick visit. I find a way to turn one activity into three, over-cramming my days, running around like a chicken with her head cut off. When I make these plans, I feel proud, but when the day is over, I feel burnt-out. Having a high motor is a blessing and a curse like that. It also makes it very hard to relax when it’s time to relax. I’ve conditioned my brain to always look for ways to do more—not less. My boyfriend gently says I could work on my vacation behavior because I don’t help him relax, either. Here are signs you don’t know how to relax.
Your “chill” days involve errands
When you tell yourself you’ll do “nothing” on a Saturday, that means you’ll pick up a prescription, pick up some items from a home goods store, take a fitness class, list items on Ebay, and re-organize your closet.