When you find your soul mate—the person you feel like you’ve been waiting your whole life to meet—you think you’d be on the same page about major things. And, perhaps you are. You both want to do charitable things if you make lots of money, you both want to travel the world, an active social life is important to each of you, and you even share the same religious beliefs. But even if all of these other important values match up, it is still possible to be madly in love with someone and have different views on parenthood. More specifically, you may be all about it, and your partner may want nothing to do with it. Having children is the biggest decision a couple can ever make. Nobody should ever feel coerced into it. So, if you want kids, and he doesn’t, should you marry him?
First, how old are you?
First, let me just say that if you’re only in your twenties or your partner is in his early thirties, it’s important to know that men tend to come around to the idea of kids later. Men mature much more slowly than women do, so just because your 29-year-old partner says he doesn’t want kids now doesn’t mean he won’t want them in five to ten years.