Being a good listener is one of the greatest attributes a person could possibly have. Really listening, and hearing what people are saying, actually makes you powerful. Ironically, people who talk too much and monopolize conversations often believe that they are gaining power by doing this. But over-talking, and under-listening, really just denotes insecurity and a lack of confidence. When a person knows she is worthy of respect, she is interesting, and she is intelligent, she doesn’t feel the need to prove it by gabbing constantly. That knowledge comes with a silent calmness. Meanwhile, those who actually need to compensate for something, well, they tend to talk a lot. So, consider listening more and talking less. You already know what’s going on in your mind—so you only gain new information by listening to others. Here are ways to be a better listener in all of your relationships.
Release your thoughts
When someone is talking, you likely come up with something you’d like to say to every half of each sentence. So, you cling onto one of those, and then tune out until the person is silent, only commenting on that thing you clung onto that they said several minutes ago.