“A yearly trip with my boys, and weekly BJs.” That was the answer I received when I asked a very happily married man (married for 25 years) how he and his wife make it work. Alright well, there’s obviously more to it than friend vacations and pleasure of the oral persuasion—they probably are good communicators and support one another—but, when this guy and his wife got married, they made a casual contract. They both listed things they would need to be happy forever. They both had terms and conditions, and those were two of his: being allowed to go on a yearly boys trip with his friends, and receiving weekly BJs. I don’t know how strictly that last part is enforced because, well, that would just be harassment. But I met this guy while he was on his yearly boys’ trip so, clearly, that part is holding up. And, I think it’s a great thing. Here is why the guys’ trip is good for both of you.
He opens up about career stuff
When given plenty of time to let the conversation go where it might, men actually open up to each other about their doubts, dreams, concerns, and hopes in their career. Most of them assume they’re alone with the chaos of thoughts and feelings they have around the progression of their career—it’s good for them to see how common their thoughts are.