When you have children, you do, finally become, in a way, blood relatives with your in-laws. There are now people in the world who carry both your blood, and your in-laws’ blood. You’re connected on a whole new level, not just by law, but also by DNA. Naturally, grandparents feel a sense of responsibility for their grandchildren, and they want to be involved in their lives. They see their children in their grandchildren, and they’re launched back in time, to when they were new parents, cautious, tedious, and paranoid, all over again. It can be difficult for grandparents not to overstep their boundaries when it comes to how their kids raise their kids. If it’s your own parents, at least you have the comfort level to tell them to back off. But when it’s your spouse’s parents, you don’t feel quite as okay about saying that. Here’s what it’s like having in-laws trying to parent your kids.
You hide discussion about school from them
When it’s time to tour different preschools and elementary schools, take your kids in for interviews, and read pamphlets, you have to hide the evidence from your in-laws, tucking away pamphlets when they come over. You know that they’ll pounce on the opportunity to intervene with this decision.