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In order for both people in a relationship—romantic or platonic—to feel happy, the relationship needs to be about give and take. It has to be a nice balance of listening and talking. Both individuals should feel, when they get together, that they each have the chance to shine, vent, show off, and be heard. So why does this balance get so often thrown off? Well, because talking about oneself feels good. And we rarely realize that things that feel good and natural can be bad. Plus, if you have a really good friend, she probably wants to provide a constantly-present shoulder to cry on and listening ear, so she may not tell you that you’ve been a bit self-involved lately. And think about it: having to tell someone they talk about themselves too much is so uncomfortable. So don’t put your poor friend in a place where she has to say it. Instead, look for the signs. Do you talk about yourself too much?
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You don’t know what’s happening in your friend’s life
If you stop and think about it, you have no idea what major changes have happened in your good friend’s life for the last couple of months. And yet, you speak to her several times a week. Hmmm….Could it be that nothing has happened in her life at all for months? Or that you haven’t given her the chance to tell you about it?
