I was having a conversation with a friend the other day about setting time limits for yourself when pursuing a man.  For almost a year she’s basically been rearranging her social calendar so it can accommodate the “chance” that this guy might finally pay her some attention, while he has lived his life with no consideration for the part she may or may not play in it.  6 months is my limit.  If you’ve spent half a year, texting, direct messaging, calling and lastly confronting and he has made zero effort to show you he’s interested, it’s time to chalk it up and cut your losses.

I’m realizing that’s kind of what a quarter life crisis feels like.  You reach a point in your life where you realize if you haven’t hit certain markers to achieve your goals, it may be time to get new ones.  It’s plagued by the sobering thought that as much as you want your dream, it may not return those same feelings.  For months I’ve been fighting this lump of anxiety in my chest and fleeting feelings of failure and inadequacy.  And I can’t help but feel guilty because on paper, my life actually looks pretty good.  I have a profession that I enjoy going to everyday where I get to help young people AND get paid.  I’ve recently gotten into a tax bracket that gives me the promise of financial stability, I’m surrounded by a select few family and friends that love and support me and I’ve gained a following from freelance writing that gives me a nice paycheck on the side.  But as I approach thirty more and more come creeping the reminders of goals that I had hoped to accomplish by my late twenties.

I can’t have possibly peaked yet, I just got started being an adult.  This can’t be as good as life gets. I remember when I just graduated high school.  I was a late-bloomer.  I wasn’t quick to get excited about goal setting and career paths.  I was happy if I could get off work early from the Dairy Queen on a pay Friday and spend the weekend away with my boyfriend in his dorm.  I didn’t want for much and in many ways that was the best time of my life.  But then a few years later I decided I wanted more than being my boyfriend’s bottom broad and “soft serve operator” listed under my special skills on a resume.  That’s when my very own American Dream started forming and I realized I wanted a job that didn’t encourage you to wear jeans, real bills that looked good on my credit report like a mortgage and a car note, and I even got a career goal: I wanted to be a writer.  I’ve been blogging for about two years and while I didn’t expect to be Necole Bitchie by now, I guess I just would have hoped to have made a little more progress.  In many areas of my life I feel like I’m working harder and harder and seeing less and less recognition for it.  And I have to be honest, as passionate as I am about something I love to do, at the end of the day we all want to be recognized, not on the cover of  Us Weekly necessarily, but appreciated and noted for your work.  Even better if you can be compensated at the same time.

Facebook has a way of making you feel like the biggest loser in the world when you’re posting about your new Jessica Simpson wedges you nabbed on sale while your friends are posting their shiny princess cut engagement rings or their newly decorated nurseries. I also noticed friends that I swore were riding with me to the end are now veering onto some paths of vastly different priorities.  I always found comfort in the fact that I was in pursuit of something great, and for that I had to sacrifice rushing into being someone’s wife or mother.  I was going to be a writer; I had a blog and 246 Twitter followers who were fans of my work to prove it.  But as I checked my blog stats on New Year’s Day and they weren’t what I hoped, I found myself wondering if I’ve been wasting my time.  Just like I told my friend in pursuit of her Mr. Right, maybe I had missed some key red flags that should have happened to signal that I could experience some significant success as a writer.

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Yesterday, 106 & Park Host Shad “Bow Wow” Moss appeared on daytime talk show “Anderson Live” to discuss fatherhood and a couple of other topics with Anderson and his co-host Snooki of “Jersey Shore.” Of course parenting and baby talk was the most popular subject as Snooki and Bow Wow are both new-ish parents.

During the interview, Bow Wow lit up when discussing his daughter Shai and wasted no time chiming in with Snooki as she discussed the joys of being a parent and even shared that he loves fathering Shai. It’s always good to see a young black male own up to his responsibilities and obligations as a father; however, there will always be skeptics giving the side-eye and wondering if it’s all for show. The fact that Bow Wow’s been called out by his daughter’s mother and her sister several times for being a deadbeat dad doesn’t help his Father of the Year case.

If you recall, back when little Shai was born her mom Joie Chavis shared that she refused to put the rapper’s name on her daughter’s birth certificate because he was not a father. Joie’s younger sister, Naja Chavis later on echoed these claims by going at the 106 & Park host on Twitter.

“You publicly announced that Shai was your daughter, when are you going to publicly announce that you’re a DEADBEAT? @bowwow Shai deserves better.”

That tweet was accompanied by a slew of other accusatory tweets hurled at  Moss and his mother. Many were easily able to write him off as a deadbeat due to accusations made by the Chavis women; however, now that he’s more out in the open discussing  his daughter some are unsure of what to believe.

Back in October we reported that Shad and Joie had been in court trying to work out how much he should pay in child support. While Shad agreed to pay $3,000 per month,stating that he only made $4,000 a month as a Cash Money Records employee, after the court hearing, he was named the new host of 106 and Park, which means his monthly income probably increased drastically. Consequently, Shad and Joie will return to court for a permanent hearing this December. It will be interesting to see how he proves how much he loves his daughter then.

Check out the video of Bow Wow on Anderson. Do you think he’s being totally honest regarding his involvement in his daughter’s life?

Jazmine Denise is a writer living in New York. Follow her on Twitter @jazminedenise

Although their lives can sometimes seem “perfect” and un-relatable from the outside, the lives of celebrities are probably more normal than you think. Take a look at these 8 celebs who were adopted, some even rising from terrible pasts to create incredibly prosperous futures…

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Before you knew about their profiles, many of these celebrities gained popularity first from their weird, yet awe-inspiring hairstyles. Others, of course, were already household names before their hair became a fashion trend with fans and media experts alike. And as odd as they appear to be, no one can rock Amber Rose’s dyed blonde buzz cut or Janelle Monae’s updo better.

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Dancing With the Stars has stepped their game up. The hit show has announced that they’re soliciting bigger names this season and apparently we’ll see Snooki and Queen Latifah waltzing across that dance floor. So much for the has-beens. In the spirit of suspicion, entertainment and hope, here are some celebs we’d like to catch on the show. Considering that Dancing with the Stars has some very random contestants on the show, expect this list to be all over the place.

What do Toni Morrison and Snooki from Jersey Shore have in common? Well, both of these ladies were asked to speak at Rutgers University, both accepted. But the similarities stop there.

While Pulitzer Prize winning author, Toni Morrison will receive $30,000 for delivering the commencement address in May, MTV reality television star, Nicole “Snooki” Polizzi received $32,000 for her appearance last Thursday.

Check out what the queen of the Jersey Shore had to say to the Rutgers students over at Hello Beautiful.

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