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This month, we spoke to 112 singer Q Parker and his wife, Sharlinda Parker, about how they were able to turn their marriage around after finding themselves on a downward spiral.
Let’s begin with the story of how you met.
Q: We met here in Atlanta. We were introduced by one of my closest friends, Wingo from Jagged Edge. He introduced me to Sharlinda and from that moment, I dropped this “so rough, so tough” on her and she couldn’t resist.
But yeah, we talked and shortly after that we started secretly courting and dating. Probably like 1 year 1/2 into us dating, we wanted to make it official and let our closest friends know that we were an item. After about 2 1/2 years of dating, I asked her to marry me. We were married in August of 2002.
Sharlinda: Richard Wingo of Jagged Edge, Q’s best friend, introduced us. Wingo was one of my clients at this hair salon in Buckhead—and he was also a friend. Q came to get his hair done, and he never left since then. Even when Q was telling people I was his girlfriend; I was like “Stop telling people I’m your girlfriend because I’m not your girlfriend. I wouldn’t date my clients.” He was a client first. He kept pushing it on me. I’m a few years older than Q. But we made it official after so many months—almost a year.
Q: It wasn’t even that we were secretly dating. If you paid attention, you knew that we were—as they would say—“talking,” but we didn’t want to tell people we were officially dating just yet. We waited until we were sure we really had something.
Tell us about the proposal!
Sharlinda: First of all, I had no clue about the proposal. Yeah, we probably touched on, “Oh, we’re not going to be dating forever.” It was never “Are you going to marry me? When is this day going to come?” We were just enjoying each other as a dating couple, as an item. It totally shocked me because I thought Q was planning something different and it was my proposal.
Q: Ryan Cameron of V-103 had a residency at this nightclub in Atlanta called Taboo. He booked me to perform on the night he was broadcasting live. I set it up to where I would perform—I started doing solo appearances outside of 112—and afterward, I’d have the band start playing some soft music and I would use that as my opportunity to propose. In the middle of my set, I sang the Babyface version of “You Are So Beautiful.” I called Sharlinda up on stage, and I proposed to her. The next day, Ryan played it over the radio—he had the morning show slot. He broadcasted it over the whole city of Atlanta. It was totally by surprise.
The one thing that I loved about Sharlinda was that she laid down a lot of ground rules. “You’re not going to do this,” “Don’t call me after a certain time. Me and my daughter go to sleep at a certain time,” “I’m not going to be dating you just to date you.” She never pressured me about marriage. We were just enjoying each other. And when the opportunity came for me to perform, I just woke up at the jewelry store, and I bought her engagement ring.
We were engaged for almost a year. We had our wedding August 10, 2002, in Atlanta. We had about 300 guests. BET and Ebony/Jet covered the wedding. It was a pretty big wedding.
What is the worst marriage advice you’ve ever received?
Sharlinda: Everybody’s advice! [Laughs] No, it’s cool to get the basics like being honest and communicating or compromising with each other. Yes, take all of the positive. However, when you have your girlfriends like, “Oh girl, make sure you do this and do that” sometimes people can give bad advice based on what they’ve experienced in life.
Also, people who say your life won’t change after marriage. That’s kind of a fib. It does.
Q: I’ll just say that you have to be likeminded. You have to share a likeness with the people you get advice from. If I want advice from a mechanic, I want to get it from a licensed mechanic who has been doing it for a while. Single guys trying to tell you what to expect is probably the worst advice.
The great advice is that you have to show up every day. There are no off days in marriage. Show compromise, sensitivity, compassion, and thoughtfulness, not being selfish. All of those things have to become a verb.
Sharlinda: As much thought as I put into styling as much thought as Q puts into writing songs is the same amount of thought and care we have to put into our marriage each day. The same way that you have a business, you have to put just as much in your relationship—you have to plan and strategize. Q and I are not perfect. We have had a whole bunch of ups and downs, but we’re learning. We’ve gotten to a point where we know that these things work.
Your marriage is a big part of your life and if you don’t work it and make moves, you’ll fail like half of America. We were on a downfall at one point in our marriage.
I know that you’re both Christians. What role does your faith play in your marriage?
Q: We can’t have a successful marriage without having some level of spirituality.
Both: We’ve tried!
Q: We definitely are Christians and we strongly know that we can’t survive in a marriage without God. We’re definitely in a 3-way relationship. We tried years not having an active part in our spirituality incorporated in our relationship and like Sharlinda mentioned, we were in the fast lane to being unsuccessful in marriage. The moment we realized we couldn’t do it without the Lord in our relationship, it made the relationship so much better. You have to be in a space where you ask the Lord to come in. It’s a choice that you make. We have to make the decision to invite the Lord in our relationship. So we re-invited him. We reconnected ourselves. It has been night and day.
If TGT doesn’t get their act together they might be in some real trouble with the emergence of what could be R&B’s next supter trio. RL of Next, Q of 112 and Wingo of Jagged Edge have teamed up to release a new song together called “All I Want Is You.”
The track samples Luther Vandross’ song “Better Love” and the runs at the very beginning are certainly a nod to the late R&B crooner with perhaps a meshing of Luther’s vocals with maybe RL’s- I’m guessing here.
You can’t sample a Luther song without staying true to the classic R&B sound we’ve all been yearning for lately.
And though sources close to the group claim the track was just a result of Q, RL and Wingo messing around in the studio, and is not finished yet, you’ll probably enjoy it. The song is basically about a man reassuring his woman that while she might not be feeling appreciated right now, all he wants is her.
Check out some of the lyrics:
Say you don’t feel like I really love ya
The way that I used to
But baby that’s the furthest thing from the truth
How can I let you know
How much you mean to me?
Everything to me.
Me without you is obscene to me.
Jagged Edge is currently in the process of releasing a comeback album and touring but after hearing this song, we’re hoping this is not the last time we hear from these three.
Take a listen to the song and let us know what you think.
“Real Housewives of Atlanta” fans who don’t live in the Georgia area or were unable to attend Kandi Burruss’ November “A Mother’s Love” production will be happy to know that the former Xscape singer is preparing to release the DVD version of the popular stage play.
As she previously stated while doing press to promote the play, the storyline closely mirrors the emotional tug-of-war that she has been experiencing in her personal life due to her mother’s disapproval of her relationship with fiancé, Todd Tucker. The production features an array of familiar faces including Kandi’s “Real Housewives of Atlanta co-star Porsha Williams, Danity Kane’s D. Woods, 112’s Q Parker, Shirley Murdock and Internet personality Funky Dineva.
The DVD is scheduled to be released on Apr. 8, but is already available for pre-order, along with official t-shirts and a soundtrack. The busy bride-to-be announced the upcoming release via Instagram yesterday.
“Hey everyone! Go to KandiOnline.com & see the trailer for my musical! Preorder by the 8th & get free shipping! Repost! @weheartkandi “Preorder by 4/8/14 & get FREE Shipping! http://kandionline.com/pre-order/ #AMothersLove #AMothersLoveDVD #AMothersLoveSoundtrack”
Judging by the preview, “A Mother’s Love” is definitely worth checking out.
Watch the trailer on the next page and let us know what you think.
We’re already pretty sure that Kenya Moore is the newest member of #TeamTalls on the “Real Housewives of Atlanta.” The former Miss USA has dropped a few hints here and there and she was already seen at the JET Beauty of the Week competition at the Bailey Agency with Cynthia so she’s pretty much a shoe-in. Kenya may not be the only new addition to the cast though. Straight from the A is reporting #TeamSmalls is also getting a new member in the form of Nicole Porche.
Nicole is a 40-something, low-profile actress originally from New Orleans, and a graduate of Southern University—there’s one plus. She’s reportedly appeared in commercials and several low budget independent films around Atlanta and doesn’t have any previous affiliations with any of the current cast members, which could be a good and a bad thing.
Nicole was said to have been introducing herself as “the new housewife” at a recent taping in the city, but with cast bios and photos for season 5 still a few weeks out, it doesn’t look like anyone will know for sure until then. Sheree is the only former cast member we know is leaving the show, but Nicole may be added to the cast since Kim is pregnant again and won’t be taping as much this season—plus she’s got her own show now.
Other sites have also said 112 Member Q Parker’s wife, Sherlinda, could potentially be the newest member of the cast. That’s probably based on the fact that Q was a part of the Bailey/Jet magazine model search too, but his wife didn’t appear to be a part of the action. Since she’s the owner of her own nail salon with her sister, it would be nice to see either one of these women who’ve got their own things going for themselves added.
What do you think about either one of these ladies joining the show?
Brande Victorian is a blogger and culture writer in New York City. Follower her on Twitter at @be_vic.
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