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If I were to ask you to tell me five things about your day, would it be safe to say that the majority of the things that you would rattle off (besides, “Who is this weirdo asking me about my day?”) would be negative?  I’ll assume again and say that answer is yes because humans have a tendency to fixate on the negative.  That’s not coming from me, that’s science saying that.  Negative things have a tendency to stick with us longer than something positive, but I’m from the school of “you are what you think,” and I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to be a negative person.  I don’t want that for you either.  So, I’m going to offer up 9 different ways to help you to turn that scowl upside down and help you to train your mind to immediately go to the positive instead of fixating on the negative.

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No good ever came from worrying, or being negative, or dwelling on the past. That is only a waste of time. And time is precious. So here are 14 ways you’re going to stop being down on yourself right now, and for the rest of the year. (And hopefully for the rest of your life!)

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We all want to change something in our lives. Some of us want a better job, some want to get a job and others hope to launch a business. If you find yourself muttering “I need to get my life together,” for the 100th time and it’s only Monday, maybe it’s time to make some changes in your life right now. If you think it’s time but you’re unsure of how to go about making those changes, Forbes offers five tips to do so that you can begin to implement immediately.

First tip: Quit something. Quit a job, or a side hustle or perhaps an organization you’ve been volunteering with. Forbes says that quitting is the best way to start something. Even if you like the job, perhaps you recognize it’s not where your focus should be. Quitting something can be a release, and it can put you on the right track to figuring out where you want to go next.

Next: Start something. Start anything, even if you never plan to do it again. Life is about experiences and experiments. Whether the experiments succeeded or failed, at least you were able to experiment and experience different facets of life.

Third tip: Stop Thinking. When you want to step out and try something new, your mind usually begins to think of reasons why it’s not a good idea. Stop thinking, put your body in motion and let your mind follow where you’re going next.

Fourth tip: Stop making excuses. Making excuses is easy and it’s nothing new. We’ve all been told over and over again that once you stop making excuses, you’ll be able to move forward. Now is the time to take charge and finally take this bit of advice.

Lastly: Give Up. Stop trying so hard on what’s giving you the most trouble. If sending out resumes isn’t working, then stop sending out resumes. If you don’t want to be labeled as unemployed, think of yourself as self-employed. If you’re not making enough money doing what you’re doing, then stop thinking of how much money you need to be happy and be creative with what you already have. Take a walk, try Zumba, watch a movie. When you take a minute and give up on what you thought was most important, you may find that the answer you were looking for will come straight to you.

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I’d like to share a story with you about two interesting people that we ALL know…

Ms. Jane D. Acceptor thinks, “I got this dead-end job, I’m bored to tears, but hey — it pays my bills. It keeps a roof over my head. So what I hate what I do, and I’m not crazy about the people I work with…it’s a job. Aren’t you supposed to hate your job?”

Jane goes through life just accepting how it all turns out. But Mrs. Wendy Ago-Getter is a different animal. She used to be in Jane’s place, she actually worked in the cubicle right next to her. She and Jane used to complain, complain and complain about how their boss was an idiot, how management had no clue, and about how other co-workers got on their nerves. Sure they weren’t the nicest things to say about others but they had a roaring good time doing it!

They were bitter and thrived off of each other’s negative energy. They threw pity parties on a daily basis on instant messenger and on their lunch breaks.

But then…something changed. Wendy’s Husband, Mr. Getter introduced her to the law of attraction, because her bad attitude was bringing him down and causing their marriage to get a bit rocky. Once Wendy started to become aware of how she allowed her energy to flow, she also noticed how depression and unhappiness took control of her life. It seemed as if she WANTED this for herself. And it was at this moment when she realized she had the power to make a change. With this gradual mental shift she started to get to know herself a bit more. She started to dig deep for her inner power.

See how you can tap into this power at HelloBeautiful.com. 

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Some people are born with an optimistic attitude. Well, actually we all are; but some have learned the art of maintaining this happiness or optimism after departing the innocent stage of childhood. As growing women, many of us experience the same ups and downs of life.  When it comes to the problems that many of us face, it’s pretty much the same script only a different cast. While some women’s problems are more severe than others, we all have our happiness tested. As failed relationships, disappointments, unachieved dreams, and a variety of other things creep into our lives, our happiness seems to creep out.

As cliché as it sounds, happiness is a state of mind. I’m sure when you’re feeling less than excited about circumstances in your life this is probably the last thing you want to hear. It’s almost worse than the generic consoling phrase, ‘it will get better.’

Still, we all know that eventually circumstances do get better, hearts are healed, and debt paid off; but it can become difficult to remain optimistic and exude happiness in the midst of these aggravating situations. While every day or every situation may not make you happy an overall happy existence is attainable, if you work at it.

So before you pour countless hours into unfulfilling jobs, subpar relationships, or other can-wait situations, try these 7 tips to find and maintain your happiness.

Wale told ya’ll “breaking up it’s hard to move along it’s even harder.” When you’re going through a tough time, you need all the help you can get. So, why not use your cell phone to help?

Check out these apps that will redirect your attention to more positive things so you can stop thinking about the ex.

They’re at Your Tango.com.

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If a cutie tries to talk to you at a party, do you get so nervous that you run the other way? Does the thought of talking to new people at an office picnic make you break into a cold sweat? You may be dealing with a case of the bashfuls. While there’s nothing wrong with being shy, it can keep the world from knowing what an amazing personality you have! Overcoming shyness is not about changing you who are, but rather changing your actions to better connect with people. As someone who has struggled with shyness, I can tell you that it can be an obstacle both personally and professionally.  Career-wise, being too timid can keep you from networking effectively, speaking up in meetings, and can even make you seem incapable of leadership. On a personal level, being shy can keep you from meeting new friends and can make dating even more uncomfortable. However, you can overcome your self-consciousness to become more assertive and self-assured. Here are some tips to begin your journey.

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The book Think and Grow Rich is a classic amongst entrepreneurs, economists and even some spiritual advisers. Before self-help books took over the market, there was this one. Published in 1937 by Napoleon Hill, Think and Grow Rich is one of the original texts in motivational “how-to” books and was based on Hill’s studies of the wealthy and powerful people in his circle at the time, which included Andrew Carnegie.

The following 13 tenets is an overview of the steps that define how to think and grow rich.

Desire
Desire is a powerful force. Not only do you have to have the desire to achieve or attain something, but you should also have a plan by which to work towards your desired outcome. The strength of your desire will manifest itself in the time and attention you give to nurturing that desire.

Faith
Faith, in this sense, has to do with optimistic thinking and believing in oneself. This is very much in tune with the law of attraction; if you think good things, good things will happen, therefore, if you think positively about your goals, your goals will be met.

Autosuggestion
If you keep repeating your goals and plans for success, it will come true. You have to imprint these goals and thoughts in your mind.

Specialized Knowledge

”Knowledge will not attract money, unless it is organized, and intelligently directed, through practical plans of action, to the definite end of accumulation of money.”

Acquiring knowledge, either through the traditional route of formal schooling or from other informal means, is key to making it happen. The more you know, the more you will propel your idea but your education does need to align with your stated goals. After all, how else can you master your craft.