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Girl, You Better Flaunt It! How To Unleash Your Inner Charisma

June 27th, 2013 - By Lauren R.D. Fox
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From HelloBeautiful 

I’m sure you’ve experienced it before–the person who can walk into a room and light the whole space with their personality. Their smile, their aura, their just being there enhances the mood of everyone around them. I know I’ve experienced it before–sheer charisma. A traditional definition of charisma calls it a compelling attractiveness or charm, also a divinely conferred power or talent. I’ve always wondered, is that something they’ve learned or were they born that awesome?!

Acclaimed performance coach and author of “INFECTIOUS: How to Connect Deeply and Unleash the Energetic Leader Within” Allworth Press), Achim Nowak has figured out a ways to award us with charisma in case we weren’t born with it. Nowak claims that if you don’t already have charisma, you can get it. Nowak says that we all have it.

“It is a primal, sexual, animal, spiritual energy. It is an energy we all have – though for most of us, the channels to this energy are shut tight. But these channels can be opened!”

So how does one open these channels? First start by not comparing your charisma to anyone else’s. That’s easier said that done. But if you focus on your own charisma, it will manifest in its own unique way. Check out Nowak’s quick tips on learning charisma.

1. Enjoy being the center of attention.

It’s a simple decision that immediately challenges you to show up more fully. The moment you do, unexpected forces within you will be unleashed!

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How To Deal With Holes In Your Resume

June 12th, 2013 - By Tanvier Peart
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When you are in search of a new job, you want to do everything you can to paint yourself in the best light. In many cases, this often boils down to your resume and the caliber of experience you can bring to the table. In an ideal world, you would have all of the minimum requirements and more to make yourself sparkle. But sometimes reality hits, making this just a dream. After all, temporary setbacks do not determine where we will be. Should your resume have a few (or many) holes, here are a some ways to fill in the gaps.

Chef Noire: Spicy Baked Buffalo Chicken Dip

April 15th, 2013 - By Raven Carter
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From BlackHealthTV

Tired of the same old buffalo chicken wings and ho hum dip to go with your chips? Why not combine the two for a delicious appetizer! That’s what you’ll get in this tasty spicy baked buffalo chicken dip that will be the perfect beginner’s dish at your next dinner party.

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Steal Success: How to Learn From the Journeys of Others

February 11th, 2013 - By C. Cleveland
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When you read business profiles, are you sure you’re paying attention to the right parts of the story? When your competitors are successful, are you looking for flaws, or how they achieved success? You could be cheating yourself out of valuable lessons without realizing it.

Studies show that we learn more from success than failure. There’s a reason coaches have their players watch footage of the greats. Seeing others maximize their potential makes it easier to improve our own behavior. Next time you come across a success story, don’t focus on the superficial.

Get proof that it’s possible.

While our own dreams seem unattainable, some people make success look easy. More often than not, a lot of hard work is going on behind the scenes. When successful people talk about how they became who they are, pay attention to the obstacles they faced along the way. How are they similar to the issues you are dealing with? Focus on how the individual overcame their obstacles and think about how you can apply that to your situation.

Get a motivational boost.

Nothing gets you off your butt and ready to take action like seeing your peers passing you by. Instead of giving your friends and competitors the side eye, use their success as a motivator. Forget looking for the negative. What strategies can you borrow from their progress?

Learn from someone else’s mistakes.

Everyone makes mistakes. Thank God! Because learning from the missteps of others can keep you from repeating them in your own life. Look for lessons others have learned. How do they get themselves in a bad situation and how do they get out of it?

Find out how successful people think.

Success often requires making high-risk decisions. Pay attention to how successful people manage these risks. How do they weigh the pros and cons of their decision? What steps do they take to reduce negative consequences?

Get new sources of inspiration.  

If you admire someone, find out whom they admire. This gives you insight into how your role model became who they are, and how their brain works.

Warning: Notice your differences.

Every trick doesn’t work for every person. Pay attention to how your situation differs from the person’s story you’re studying. Do you have a smaller market, lower budget, or a more conservative audience? Take those differences into account as you strategize how to apply their strategy to your situation.

Repeat success; learn from your victories.

Don’t put all your attention on what other people are doing. You’re making some pretty impressive moves yourself. When you achieve something, analyze what made you successful. Learn what your strengths and abilities are so you can call on them to get over hurdles in the future.

You’re ready to consume success stories like never before. Check out profiles and business spotlights like those featured on Madame Noire whenever you can. Read autobiographies of the people you admire (and the people they admire). Subscribe to the blogs of people who have the job you want. A major perk of our over-sharing culture is that people are giving away their secrets to success for free.

These strategies aren’t just effective for succeeding in business. Whatever you want to accomplish – losing weight, buying a house, changing a habit – there’s someone who’s been there, done that, and ready to show you the way.


C. Cleveland is a freelance writer and content strategist in New York City, perfecting living the fierce life at The Red Read. She is at your service on Twitter (@CleveInTheCity) and Facebook (/MyReadIsRed).


MN Biz Must-Read: “Networking is Dead”! Long Live Networking!

December 6th, 2012 - By Andrea Williams
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By now you know the adage is true: “It’s not what you know; it’s who you know.” And regardless of your industry or title, having the right network of people around you can mean the difference between a failed entrepreneurial venture and startup success, or a languishing career trajectory and an office in the C-suite.

But the burning question remains, how do you navigate chamber of commerce meet-and-greets and LinkedIn groups to successfully build an overflowing Rolodex? And how do you ensure that those contacts are actually the right ones – people that can and will propel you forward in business and life?

These questions and more are answered in Networking is Dead: Making Connections That Matter (November 2012, BenBella Books), by Melissa G. Wilson and Larry Mohl.

Networking is Dead is written in fable form and tells the story of two colleagues (Meredith and Lance) who enlist the services of a “networking sensei” (Dan) to help whip their circles of contacts into proper shape.

As Meredith and Lance meet weekly with Dan, learning how to effectively build a bigger, better, stronger network, the reader is like a fly on the wall, privy to all of Dan’s insider tips for thoughtful and masterful connecting. Every question asked by Meredith or Lance is one that readers have probably wondered themselves, and each of Dan’s answers can be immediately plugged into the reader’s own playbook for future use.

Meanwhile, readers will likely identify more closely with one of the characters: Meredith is an outgoing social media pro who has tons of connections but feels that few are actually meaningful, while Lance is a shy accounting executive who just wants more connections, period.

The close of each chapter features a copy of Meredith and Lance’s weekly homework assignment, provided so the reader can follow the same path as the students. Tasks from week/chapter five, “Give First,” include: give wisely – not to receive, but to offer value – and get started by asking one of your partners what one thing he or she would like your help with.

In fact, much of the book focuses on the notion of a higher purpose for all of the constant “liking” and “following,” the idea being that in the process of climbing your own proverbial career ladder, you can – and should – pull up a couple folks with you. Read: Selfish pursuits must be checked at the door.

So does that mean you have to relegate yourself to a life of charitable lack, forgoing your own visions of success and prosperity? Hardly, say Wilson and Mohl. By focusing on authentically serving others, you will attract more opportunity than you could ever imagine.

Likewise, the authors suggest that readers examine their own connections, categorizing contacts into one of three groups: Exchanger, Giver, and Taker. The titles are self-explanatory, and though readers may feel inclined to fill their networks with as many givers as possible for their own personal gain, Wilson and Mohl urge professionals to seek out Exchangers, or those people who will be a constant resource for giving and receiving information and opportunities.

The authors also recommend that readers not rush the process: “Only by focusing on a few, high-quality connections – 10 or fewer at first – can you truly accelerate your goal achievement. It’s paradoxical, but starting small to grow a big network is the way to go.”

That said, if your sole purpose is to amass as many Facebook friends as possible, or your last Google search was “How to Get 5,000 Twitter Followers in 30 Days,” Networking Is Dead is probably not the book for you.

If, however, you want to grow your network organically and strategically, focusing on “connections that matter,” this is most certainly a must-read.

Andrea Williams is a journalist and writer based in Nashville, TN. For more, follow her @AndreaWillWrite.

How To Save Money On Your Home Energy Bills – “Home Savvy”

October 26th, 2012 - By Raven Carter
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In this episode we’ll show you how to efficiently save money on your home’s energy, heating and water bills.


How To Save Money On Your Home Energy Bills:

Great installation paired with a good sealant can save you up to 33% on your home energy bills.

Great Stuff Window And Door Insulating Foam Sealant– Seals, Feels & Insulates Cracks & Gaps up to 1 inch. Takes the shape of the crack or void to form an airtight water resistant seal.


Dap Dynaflex 230 Premium Indoor/Outdoor Sealant– Used for Door & Window Treatments.


Honeywell Wi-Fi Programmable Touchscreen Thermostat–  Has wifi compatibility, which allows you to control it from your smart phone, tablet or other mobile devices.


How To Save Money On Your Water Bill:

The average household can save up to 2,300 gallons of water a year, by ensuring they have the correct shower head installed.

WaterPik EcoFlow 5- Spray Hand Shower– Provides great water pressure and conserves water.

How To Cut Back On Appliance Bills:

Save up to $104.00 on lifetime operating expenses, by changing to an appliance model that is energy star qualified.


Using Energy Star Appliance brands such as GE, LG, Maytag & World Pool will provide you with optimal savings.







How To Install A Faucet – “Home Savvy” Season 2 Episode 2

September 21st, 2012 - By Raven Carter
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In this episode we’ll show you how simple it is to install a new faucet for your  bathroom vanity!

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Here’s how to do this project:

Before you start, make sure your water supply lines at the sink or at your home’s main supply are shut off, and disconnect the supply lines and the waste trap from the sink.

Apply bead of silicone on gasket


Position the faucet and gasket on the sink. Ensure to hand tighten the nuts.

Make connection to the water lines using a half inch IPS faucet supply line.

Now install the pop up connection. Be sure to install the pop up connection according to manufacturer’s instructions.

Now remove aerator and turn faucet handles all the way on.

Finish the assembly and tighten the connections.

When assembly is complete, turn on the hot and cold water supplies and flush water lines for one minute.






Feeling Paranoid? How To Know If He’s Cheating Or Not

September 18th, 2012 - By rjohnson
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From YourTango

There’s only one thing worse than finding out that your partner’s cheating: suspecting that your partner’s cheating. Unfortunately, it’s not always as simple as just asking your partner for the truth. One of the most common ways for unfaithful partners to deflect accusations of cheating is to dismiss their partners’ concerns as paranoia. Some even turn the tables and accuse their partners of pondering infidelity.

If you can’t catch your partner in the act, there are red flags to look for (suspicious errands, a sudden change in grooming or appearance, etc.), but what if you’re not 100 percent sure? Should you end your relationship without any hard evidence of infidelity, or wait passively for the truth to come out?

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How To Install A Bathroom Vanity – “Home Savvy” Season 2 Episode 1

September 14th, 2012 - By fjacobi
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In this episode we’re learning how easy it is to install a bathroom vanity!

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Here’s how to do this project:

Before you start, make sure to shut off the water supply lines at the sink, or at your home’s main supply if necessary; Disconnect the supply lines and the waste trap from the sink; Disassemble the sink and existing vanity; Patch up and paint or tile the wall where the sink and old vanity once stood if necessary.

Put the vanity in place against the wall and trace its outline on the wall.


Use a stud finder to locate the  studs to which you will screw the vanity.


Then, with a level, draw lines along the studs from the  floor to the top of the vanity. These lines will help you spot where to place the screws later on.


If the vanity has a back, measure, mark, and drill holes through it for drain pipes and supply pipes.

Set a level on top of the vanity and shim at the floor until the vanity is level. Then hold the level against the edge of the unit and shim at the wall until it’s plumb.



From the inside, attach the unit to the wall by screwing 3-inch drywall screws through the mounting rail into the studs.


Check the level again before trimming the shims flush with a utility knife. If it’s not level, add shims.


If there are large gaps at the wall or floor, attach quarter-round moulding along the wall or floor edge with finishing nails.






Poor Baby: Learning How To Maintain Your Child’s Hair When It’s Nothing Like Your Own…

July 13th, 2012 - By Jouelzy
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This article is for you if you’ve thought or said the following things:

“I have a child with a head full of hair and I don’t know what to do with it!”

“Oh baby, my child’s hair looks nothing like mine, what do I do?”

“Oh baby, my child’s hair is so dry/fine/curly/kinky/thick, I’m just trying to figure out how to keep it healthy!”

Are you a parent who is struggling to figure out how to deal with your child’s hair because they don’t have a similar texture to your own? You’ve mastered the art of your hair and then your bundle of joy comes into the world with a beautiful head of hair that you just can’t figure out. Or maybe you always go to the salon to care for your hair and it’s not a good idea to try and convince your two-year-old to sit still to get their hair done at the salon too. It’s a common problem that plenty of parents face, but I’m here to ease the struggle.