Admittedly, it has been a while, so I am feeling a bit frisky. In my mind, I have ran through the list of the normal lot of tall dark, chiseled and handsome – twice – and am quite bored (Yes, even of Idris). So in the interest of the wavering libido, I present to you The Definitive List of Top Ten Sexi Nerds, Who Can Get It. Trademark pending.

A nerd can’t be sexay, you say? Well perhaps you missed the episodes of “Family Matters” when the bumbling nerd next door Steve Urkel flipped the script on the ladies (in particular Laura Winslow) and became Stefan the So Fine. Or perhaps you forgot about that once-Harvard law nerd with a dry-uneven Afro, who transformed into the dapper, Luster Oil spraying, deep wave-rocking president of the free world. Don’t let the pocket protectors and graphic novel collection fool you, nerd lovin’ is good lovin. Yeah, I don’t know what that means but it sounds provocative.

So how do you got about finding one of these sexay nerds? Well the criteria is simple: first be a nerd; yet blessed with great genes; and/or have some major swag about you that makes me want to do you.

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Remember that perfect specimen of manhood that graced your television set oh so long ago? Do you recall that captain of all things hot that lit up the silver screen eight ways from Sunday? So do we, but unfortunately his is a brand of attractive that we haven’t seen in far too long. Beautiful man of stage and screen, please come back to us! With the holidays fast approaching, we can think of only one gift we truly want this year: These hot pieces of manliness to come back into our lives. But until then, we salute 15 smokin’ hotties we haven’t seen in a minute.

In the world of celebrity culture, the importance of an education often takes second billing to the bright glares of the spotlight. Many stars have opted to forgo their education in pursuit of their career. However, these 10 stars not only got their degrees first but raised the academic bar by attending Ivy League institutions.

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Sanaa Lathan

Sanaa was born the daughter of famed director Stan Lathan and for some that might’ve been her golden ticket to Hollywood. However, Sanna pursued a degree in drama at Yale University. She graduated with her BA in 1995 and has made a name for herself all on her merit. Her roles in Love & Basketball and Something New are a testament to her talent.

The bully we hate to love, Tami Roman, was on The Wendy Williams Show recently to discuss not only the Basketball Wives brouhaha , but to also announce her latest acting project. She didn’t disclose what exactly it was all about but apparently it’s something big.  Although BBW never went into what Tami actually did for a living before reality stardom, IMDB tells the tale of her being a struggling actress. We found this early clip of her wayyyy back in the day in 1994, acting alongside Hill Harper. She said about three words in her debut as an actress, but hey, she got paid.

Peep Tami acting at the at 8:23 mark.

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Have you ever dated a man who was visually appealing but once he opened his mouth you realized, so sadly, that he wasn’t the brightest bulb in the box? It’s tragic. A pretty face will take you far but if that’s all you have to offer, it gets really old, really fast. It’s always nice to have some knowledge inside a pretty face. Check out the celeb men who meet the requirement.

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While there are many celebrities who have hooked up then hightailed it, some, like Jay-Z and Beyoncé,  are living happily ever after.

Suppose Jay and Bey became the norm?  Would that inspire a few other celebs to hook up and go half on a baby?  Click through the gallery to find out who would make a great pair when it comes to procreating.

An intelligent man that stands for something is undeniably fine. If that something is his community, he is irresistible. Whether he’s an activist, artist or political leader, the intellectual depth and the courage to question the status quo that socially conscious man possesses is alluring. It doesn’t hurt if he’s easy on the eyes as well Here are 7 socially conscious cuties that we are crushing on.

Hill Harper loves to write. In addition to his books, Letters to a Young BrotherandThe Conversation: How Black Men and Women Can Build Loving, Trusting Relationships, the CSI:New York actor has penned another book about debt entitled The Wealth Cure: Putting Money in Its Place. The book offers advice about how to discern smart spending from dumb spending. Dumb spending involves buying big ticket items that will depreciate over time. Smart spending includes education and things that can generate joy and inspriation. Like many finance experts say, experiences count for much more than material items when it comes to increasing one’s happiness.

In commemoration of distinguished African-Americans in areas of service, education, entertainment, musical arts, media and theatrical arts, the oft-criticized network held its BET Honors last night in D.C., hosted by Gabrielle Union. BET kept it classy for its recognition of some of the most accomplished African-Americans in their respective fields. Take a peep inside for the details of live performances and honorees.

Why would anyone take relationship advice from Steve Harvey?

Before you answer, consider the fact that Harvey has managed to captivate the hearts and minds of legions of lovelorn black women (and some men) through both his radio show (particularly, the always tantalizing Strawberry Letter segment) and with his book, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, which is currently in its 50th printing and has sold more than 2 million copies.

His frank, yet sometimes funny and common sense approach to love and relationships has also earned him the covenanted spots as love advice columnist at Essence magazine and on Good Morning America. Harvey has even launched his own dating site, called Locate Your Love, which not only helps single folks make love – or whatever else – connections, but for a special price, allows users to ask personalized advice from the relationship guru himself.

And for those who yet to feel the love despite all of these offerings, Harvey is back again with his latest offering, Straight Talk, No Chaser: How to Find, Keep, and Understand a Man, which promises to pick up where his last book left off.

Okay, I get it—nothing in this entire universe is more intriguing and more complex to the human species than discovering the ins and outs of what makes the opposite sex tick. For black folks in particular, this quest to demystify love has been complicated through years of slavery, Jim Crow laws and endless news reports on why 70 percent of Black, successful women remain husbandless. So, it seems justified that a large number of how-to-books from self-appointed love gurus could feed our insatiable cravings for closeness and understanding.

Yet with the sheer volume of these books and the wide audiences that this advice reaches, it makes one wonder if these books are helping to facilitate the much needed dialogue between black men and women, or if the advice is just financially exploiting the insecurity of folks in desperate need of guidance?

In 2008 alone, there were 13.5 million self-help books sold with women overwhelmingly leading the pack as the primary consumers. Many of these relationship books are drafted by writers, who are unaccredited in any sorts of counseling, therapy or mental health training. Often times, the results or solutions given in these books come mostly from personal experience and ideas rather than scientific research.

Steve Harvey, whose roots stem from stand-up comedy, also has no background in any sort of relationship counseling and is on his third marriage. That’s not to say that degree-holding, counseling professionals trumps life experiences. Hill Harper, Harvard-trained thespian and all around hot tamale, actually did research for his book, The Conversation: How Black Men and Women Can Build Loving, Trusting Relationships, to go along side his personal narrative.

But in many of these self-help books, the conversations are often dominated by pathological finger-pointing, bitter sexism and sweeping generalizations. Two recurring themes in a lot of these books: Black women are single because they are narcissistic and insecure, while Black men are single because they are worthless and doggish.

Don’t get me wrong, some folks have legitimate issues, be it relationship or otherwise, which needs to be addressed. However, self-help books, in my view, do not take the place of self-reflection, prayer, counseling and if needed, extreme psychotherapy.

And not to be picking solely on Harvey, but if his relationship advice is so helpful, than why did he feel the need to pen another book? I mean, do you really need to be told to leave your cheating, drug-dealing boyfriend, or not to sleep with a married man? Perhaps the reality is that simplistic advice, often featured in these types of books, proves that sense isn’t always common but it does make dollars.

Charing Ball is the author of the blog People, Places & Things.