Source: BlackVoices

From BlackVoices

Deja, an 11-year-old in Sunland, California, was sent to the principal’s office at her middle school last week over a supposedly “racy” pair of clothing: her pants.

KTLA reports that the middle schooler was called in for discipline over the dark brown leggings she was wearing, which got her dismissed from class on Friday. She returned to school on Tuesday.

Deja’s mother, Yolanda Tunstill, says that the incident was related to her daughter’s skin color, as she’s never been called in for wearing leggings before she wore this dark brown pair. “I felt discriminated against,” she said. “I can understand if they said okay, this type of material, this type of clothing [was inappropriate]. But for you to make a remark to state because the pants were brown and to make a remark about my daughter’s skin color… That was not right to me.” She’s planning to take legal action.

Check out more on this story and the school’s policy on BlackVoices.com.

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You can call it shallow or superficial but the reality is image is everything and people will always judge you by your appearance first. Regardless if this is right or wrong, how you present yourself to the world will dictate how the world will ultimately treat you. If you show little effort in putting yourself together and carry yourself with a careless attitude, then the world will treat you as such. However, if you put your best foot forward everyday – looking and feeling good, then the world is sure to stop and pay attention.

This is not a call to look like a runway model every day of the week, but it is a reminder that perception is reality and how others perceive you is a direct correlation on how they will treat you. Just in case you did not know, let me also remind you that it’s your job to teach people how to treat you. By holding your standards high, you are dictating to others to do the same when they interact with you. So if your appearance is sloppy and sluggish, guess what folks will think about you?

Take pride in your appearance. Let your personality shine through with your own style of fashion. When we look good, we feel good and our confidence speaks volumes.  The best thing about being a woman is that we don’t have to spend a lot of money to look fabulous! (especially if you know how to shop for a sale). Let’s stop being lazy and take an extra 10 minutes to put on that makeup; or get a little bold and add some color to our dark wardrobes. Whatever it is, make sure it allows who you are to shine through. Don’t let your personality hide behind anything, the world deserves to know who you are!

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(msnbc.com) — Last week, a 43-page dress and grooming code at Swiss bank UBS was leaked to the media, and the rules included everything from touching up hair dye jobs to the quality of an employee’s underwear.  While there was outrage over the draconian nature of the guidelines, such appearance mandates are becoming more prevalent in the workplace.  Lindsey Sparks’ last job with a staffing firm in Oklahoma City had a restrictive dress code policy that required female employees to wear skirt suits and pantyhose at all times, even if they worked on weekends. And there was even a manager at the company that chastised workers for not wearing lipstick.

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