Source: hellobeautiful.com

From HelloBeautiful

Dear Gay Best Friend,

Ok, so, I’m talking to a guy, “Syd,” who I knew for about two years at work. We have always been attracted to each other physically. For some reason nothing ever developed because we were dating other people.

So, now we’ve been “talking” for about two months, and of course we’re having sex. We work in different departments but during the night shift Syd’s department always comes to our floor. I am very close to his co-workers, they constantly brag about how they “cuff girls” and how many girls they had. I never hear Syd talk that way even before we started talking. His co-workers say Syd has “Swag” and, yes, he does have a swag. A couple of people have told me that “Swag” is a smooth player.

I’m so falling for Syd because we get along so great. My friends tell me not to catch feelings for him because I might get my feelings hurt. I know this, but for some reason I am willing to take that risk. Even when I go out with other guys, it’s not the same. All I do is think about Syd. The only thing is we have this tradition where we only see each other either Monday’s or Tuesday’s. I don’t know if I should ask him where this is going because I don’t want to hear an answer that’s not acceptable. I don’t want to lose the friend relationship as well. I don’t know if Syd’s playing games with my heart. I know he has feelings for me, but not as strong as mines. HELP ME!!!. Will it last? Am I wasting my time? Should I bring up the conversation?

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Source: forbes.com

What do you do when you are physically attracted to someone at your job? We are used to passing attractive people in the street or on the subway, but we usually never see these people again. But when that person is in the next cubicle over, things can sure get awkward. When we see people over and over they really begin to stand out to us. Having a coworker you are attracted to can be a recipe for disaster though. You see them every day, make cordial conversation about the weather or traffic coming in that morning. All the while, you are both scanning each other, sizing each other up. There is a certain seductive factor that goes into office romances. But there are many reasons why becoming more than friends with someone at your job might not be the best idea. Here are some reasons to stay away from office temptation:

In every facet of our lives, we have to interface with complainers. These are the folks who always have something negative to say, even when things are going well. Although many of us deal with complaining parents, siblings, neighbors, spouses and friends, I think most individuals would agree that our coworkers are typically the biggest complainers that we deal with on a daily basis.

Of course, just like any form of negative communication, complaining can become a toxin that adversely affects your emotional health. Sooner or later, if you don’t speak courageously against the complainer, the toxin that emanates from their mouth will invade your mind and you will start to whine just like them. In the long run, this will negatively affect your career in terms of advancement and promotion.

The following represents at least five ways in which you can outsmart the complainers at your job.

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