It’s only early August which means there’s still plenty of time to find and settle down with a winter boo. (When the weather is bad you usually only have time for one man.) But when temperatures are hot and the sun is still shining past seven, chances are you’re out too and meeting a lot more people than you would any other season. Women are known for wanting to find that one “perfect” man in the world who has all the qualities they’re looking for and settle down with him like yesterday, but when that’s not happening fast enough, you might want to supply yourself with a handful of fellas to satisfy your different needs while you hold out for the one.

We all have different needs but there are a few standard boos you could probably use in your life right now, here are our suggestions:

The Boopolis

This is the man who is everthing, the main boo so to speak. You would make him your boyfriend if you just wanted to have that label but it’s something about him that keeps you two from going to the next level. So, he stays a boo rather than a boyfriend. The good thing is aside from the one or two things that keep you from making him your man, he’s a pretty decent package. This is they guy you’d probably call after a tough day at work to vent or who will send you the sweet “have a good day” texts in the morning, he’s also the only boo you’d let have the goodies without a commitment. But since, unlike women, men don’t give girls who aren’t their girlfriends priority all the time, you’re going to need some other boos to fill his void when he tells you “no” to whatever your request is. Hence the other boos below.

The Side Boo

The side boo is just a few notches below the main boo. He’s still a good dude, but has even more things to fix than the regular boo before he could even possibly be your man. So, on those occasions when the main man is acting up, who you gonna call? Not ghost busters, the side boo. He knows his role, he’s “Mr. Yeah,” as The Dream would say. He rushes in as the knight in shining armor when other guys act up and will work overtime to raise his place from sidepiece to regular. The good thing is you don’t have to feel like you’re taking advantage of him when you don’t elevate his place in your life because he already knows what’s up. Just make sure you don’t sleep with him in a moment of frustration with the regular boo. Boo-dom’s not supposed to get that complicated.

The Brunch Boo

There are some men who simply love to take a woman out to dinner and wine and dine her, and if you’re a woman that lives for weekend brunches, then a brunch boo is a must. Sure you can go lunch with your girls but sometimes you just want male company and the brunch boo is always down to be it. There’s no pressure, you all are borderline just friends, but the healthy amount of flirting that goes on between you two is enough to give you much-needed ego boosts every now and then, and keep each other as possibilities just in case you ever want to cross that line somewhere in the future.

The Beverage Boo

Anybody out there have that go-to guy friend you can call up to do have a drink and who always insists he pay? That’s the beverage boo. Let me be clear, you’re not using him. Like the side boo he knows his role, and like the brunch boo, he’s more than happy to fill it. So much of men’s reason for going out is to feel like the man who runs the city and sometimes just having eye candy in the shape of you on his arm is enough repayment for the tab you run up at the bar. The good thing is he’s your boo, but not your boo-boo so he’d never take advantage if you have one too many and you know you’ll get home safe. Lushes, get you one of these.

The Turnt Up Boo

Chances are the real boo isn’t trying to hit the club with you because as we’ve discussed plenty of times before, that’s just a breeding ground for relationship troubles. But, the turnt up boo has no problem hitting the dance floor with you on a Saturday night, and the best thing about clubbing with this guy is he knows the night ends after the last song. You don’t have to worry about him grabbing your booty or getting too close on the dance floor, but he’s an excellent barrier between you and the other men at the club who would gladly do so if he weren’t there. He’s probably the boo you reach out to the least but he’s always down to ride when you want to hit the town.

What other types of boos would you suggest women get in their life?

Brande Victorian is the news and operations editor for madamenoire.com. Follow her on twitter @Be_Vic.

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Meeting someone at the club isn’t a foreign concept to most, but going out to the club scene with your significant other is a completely different experience. When it’s someone you care about, the stakes could be higher at the club as opposed to just going out with friends. Going clubbing as a couple could be different and unusual for that type of atmosphere, but it could also be another way to bring you and your man closer as friends and lovers as well.

Maintain your relationship while having fun at the club with these five cautionary tips and pieces of advice to avoid all the drama.

Control Your Expectations

Before the night even begins, you should try to control what your mind (and possibly your insecurities) is saying to you. Are you nervous about him dancing with another woman? Do you feel that the club might not be the best place to take your relationship? If you have questions, address them with your mate. It is understandable to have doubts and preconceived notions about being at the club with him (remember your clubbing days with your girls? (Wild.), but make sure they are not stemming from your own insecurities. The experience is about just having fun, not about confirming some deep-seeded thoughts you might have about your relationship, or testing the waters of it. Expect to just have fun at the club with the man you love, and put the other situations aside until they arise.

Bring Mutual Friends

What is the club without your friends? You know, the women you kicked it with in college at the house parties, tore up every dance floor with and worked together to scope out the hottest guys in the building? Bring them along for the fun with you and your man, and invite his friends (the ones who encourage, not hinder, the relationship) to come along too. It’s a great way to mingle together so no one is bored or feels left out, and also to bring both parties closer, making them familiar with each other.

Trust Each Other With Other People

Clubbing can be very fun, especially when you are out single and ready to mingle. In a relationship, other women and men can try your patience and your trust. If you are in a meaningful relationship, the trust should already be established, and going to the club together could be the ultimate test. Have trust in your mate with dealing with other people at the club, whether it is a single woman or a man who is pushing his limits. The club is no safe haven for relationships, so take heed of those who might approach him just because you’re with him. You don’t have to cling onto him the whole time to let the ladies know, he should already make you feel secure, so give him the benefit of the doubt. You know your own boundaries, so if dancing with another woman is off limits, he should already know. Remember that trust goes both ways as well, so taking a drink from another man (even if it’s paid for) might not be a good look on your part.

Have Fun

When in a meaningful relationship, it can sometimes be difficult to pry yourself away from the thought of being a girlfriend to just being a friend to your mate. While in a club setting, remember to just have fun with your significant other and not make it about the relationship. A date is a place for exploring and deepening your relationship, not the nightclub. The club atmosphere can enhance the reasons why you love your man in the first place, maybe because he’s fun or friendly or even is a great dancer. Whatever it may be, enjoying yourself apart from being all mushy and loving as a couple could revitalize your relationship, and even build your friendship.

Don’t Leave the Sexiness At Home

At the club when you’re single, you feel desirable, hot and wanted by every man in the room. Just because you have the one you want doesn’t mean you have to put those feelings to the side. Grab those feelings you had at the club when it was just you and your girls and use it to have fun with your man. You two might have the days where sweatpants, satin caps and sneakers are the attire, but for this occasion, get your best dress and heels out, throw a little make-up on and get sexay for him. It’s a great way to let loose together and put your absolute best-looking foot forward, and a reminder to him that your sexiness hasn’t gone anywhere, and neither has his own “ladies man” appeal. An evening out at the club with your boo might end up being the start of a steamy, hot night to come!

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You’ve been dating a guy for a few weeks, things are going great and you want to know to where you stand. You want to make sure he isn’t seeing anyone else, and if you’re being honest, a small part of you wants to know when you can change your Facebook relationship status from “single” to “in a relationship.”

Having the “Define The Relationship” (DTR) talk generally only succeeds in making him feel backed into a corner because he feels like you want something from him — in this case a commitment — that he hasn’t offered up on his own.

The best way to get a man to commit isn’t by pleading your case and making ultimatums, it’s by being the kind of woman who doesn’t need him. Suddenly, he’ll want to be with you. Sound easier said than done? Not really!

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We’ve all heard it at some point on our search for love: “Love shows up when you least expect it.” So, this means we should stop looking for love in order to find it. What if we applied this advice to other goals we have in our lives and the world?

Your ideal job will show up when you least expect it. You’ll lose 20lbs when you least expect it. The dishwasher will repair itself when you least expect it. Our marital problems will resolve themselves when we least expect it. World peace will arrive when we least expect it. This philosophy begins to seem a little ridiculous, doesn’t it? Is It Possible To Overcome Betrayal? EXPERT

And yet, we’re all sold this ridiculous myth from a very young age that one day we’ll bump into the love of our life and magically we’ll know how to make it last. How’s that working for you?

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