Reasons Why Couples Should Be Friends First

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November 30, 2011 ‐ By Kschlicher

"friends before lovers"

I’m sure you’ve wondered if being friends first is really the best path to a lasting relationship.  The overlap in what we want from both friends and partners is actually quite significant. In a poll conducted for the women’s website handbag.com, 83% of female participants believed that a purely platonic friendship could exist between men and women. But, when probed further, one third said they secretly lusted after their male friends. It seems that physical attraction is often a byproduct of a concrete and strong companionship. Although not all friendships turn into a relationship, it’s very important to connect on a friendship basis, before diving into a relationship.  Take a look at these 7 reasons why being friends first will help build a healthy and lasting relationship.

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  • Gvision

    this is a bunch of bs.  sorry.  love at first sight is real.

    • Shanora712004

      I believe in love at first sight too. I believe in the fireworks, passion &desire at just one look, because I’ve experienced it. I also believe that you shouldnt give in to your passions or desire and get to know them first, because if you realy do want to fall deeply in love with this person and vise versa,sex too soon will kill it.

      • Eddie Rattlehead

        “Sex too soon will kill it”. Sex does not kill anything that was not there to begin with. There is, however, such thing as sex TOO LATE. It’s called postmarital sex.

    • Eddie Rattlehead

      LOL, triple LOL, actually, what are you, 16?! She is right on the money, and you are getting yourself prepped to be without any of it as your “love” at first sight fixates on your income. Less Hollywood more rational thought, for real!

  • Rahnesha

    My husband and I were friends first for a year and then we started dating. We dated for 2 1/2 years and were engaged for 2 1/2 years and been married for almost 2 years and I can tell you that he is my best friend and soul mate. Take your time and become that guy’s/girl’s friend first, it will pay in the long run. Love is not all about sex, because that will happen less and less, but passion and just enjoying your significant other because you all were friends first will never go away. It lasts for a lifetime!

  • jceizar

    I am trying it out with a girl i deeply care about now….its refreshing to get to know her on a friendship level first. I am hoping it progresses but if it doesnt..i have made a great friend.

  • Jomiya25

    Co sign this is what I’ll be trying next time, before I rush into anything ever again… Friendship first I’ve realised is key…

  • Sugar_Spice

    I co sign this article!  My husband was my friend first

    • chaka1

      My husband was my friend first too. When we became serious, it was a natural progression. Some people tell you it should come with fireworks, white horses, diamond rings, Kartrashian-type wedding, etc. Ours came very quietly and with no drama. We have a very strong bond and I can’t imagine my life without him.

      • Sugar_Spice

        Same here & at first I thought we were the weird ones because like you said it was just so natural

  • MrsIndependent

    I agree. Im trying this out right now. Friendship first lovers next