7 Signs Your Man Will Never Grow Up

November 24, 2011  |  
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There is an adjustment period in every relationship. You are both learning what you can and cannot deal with, what you absolutely must have and what you can live without. There is nothing wrong with doing a little gentle nudging to get your guy to learn your needs. But, there are some men who just never learn, and so they never grow up. Here are some signs that might be your man:

Forgets to chime in:

Even if you’re at the most boring dinner in the world with your family, your man is not a 13-year-old boy anymore. It is not acceptable for him to sit back, looking like he is losing the will to live while waiting for dinner to be over. Every adult has a responsibility to take an interest in those around them at social events. It is just embarrassing for you if he makes no effort.

Not enough foreplay:

He isn’t masturbating in his bed to Adult Videos anymore. You’re a real human being with needs. If your guy always rushes to sex, rushes through sex, and then rushes to sleep after, that means he has not overcome those animal instincts that are so prevalent in a man’s life during his teens to just get it done.

Never plans:

You pretty much keep his calendar. You have to remind him of the wedding you two are attending, or the reservations you made for the two of you. He is grateful, and goes along with the plans, but he never takes the initiative. His mother obviously babied him a little too much…

Doesn’t step up or step in:

If someone is being rude to you, he just sits back and lets it happen. He doesn’t smirk about it or find it entertaining, but he is made too uncomfortable by confrontation. Your honor is less important than his comfort level.

Never worries:

You have a flu, or sprained an ankle, and he just says “that’s too bad…” He doesn’t call daily to check on you, or offer to bring something over, or even just to keep you company. He treats it like a non-issue. He is used to being taken care of, not being the caretaker. And it’s a role he will never switch into.

Doesn’t help out:

When you host a dinner party, he just sits at the table like the token boyfriend, thinking “isn’t it enough that I showed up and your friends can see you’re in a relationship?” Once again, it doesn’t occur to him to take care of things. He waits to be taken care of.


Doesn’t spend wisely:

Part of being a grown up means making sacrifices—like not going on that trip to Las Vegas because that will put you behind on rent, and even learning a thing or two about investments. If your guy doesn’t have a clear understanding of and plan for his finances at this point, he probably never will…

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  • goodnessgranny08

    Just another woman wanting the princess treatment. You fought for equality for a reason. You love someone as they are. A man that never worries about you has confidence in your ability to survive. A man not stepping into someone disrespecting you is pretty normal. Why would any adult lower themselves to the level of a child. I stopped right there thinking this article was written by a child.

    • jake

      If you don’t step up and defend your woman,and family,you are no man. If your woman is being dissed,you better damn well step in.Have a family? You don’t play basketball with the Guys on Sunday,or slouch in front of the television all day. If you want a new big screen,and your wife needs a new car,you get the car.
      You don’t dress in baggy pants or wear your hat on backwards,or wear those stupid half pants half shorts like the basketball players use. If you can’t act like a man,you could at least try to look like one.
      Equality is one thing. heartlessness is something else.

      You expect your wife to respect you,right? well,sport,respect is not an entitlement. It has to be earned,and it goes both ways.

  • Abigail

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    • jake

      Glad you are happy Ms Abigail,but be aware. Once a cheat,always a cheat. That goes for men or women.

  • DnaAngel

    What is the deal with these new “Slide Show” formats? Its ridiculous and lazy

  • nodrama

    perfect articles to reinforce psychotic behavior on already super psychotic females

  • Slystally

    bullshit list. half of these things women do.

  • Bassadikt2001

    The reason men don’t plan is because, most of the time, they’re not allowed to! One of the reasons I left my last girlfriend was because I had absolutely no say in what we did in our spare time (always seeing HER parents/friends etc) so in the end I just let her sort things out. Of course though that meant the ignorant cow would always complain that I never remembered what we were doing at the weekend.

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  • Danny

    Seven reasons women would be completely useless if they didn’t have that hole between their legs. 

    • jake

      Then you wonder why so many women hate us.Most hateful remark I ever heard. Get a life,PUNK!

  • Girliusmaximus

    What a comment board… 🙂

    1. This list can apply to men and women.
    2. If the person you’re with is this inconsiderate, then that person is not for you. DTMFA
    3. If you spend you money on caking in lieu of rent, you need to re-evaulate your priorites because they are in serious disaray.
    4. It’s not always appropriate to “but in” or defend someone… Maybe the person started it and needed to be put in their place because they were in the wrong.
    5. *Girliusmaximus’s perspective* I applaud and appreciate a man who does not need to be told to help out, whether it’s washing dishes, fixing dinner, making important appointments, or keeping up with ROUTINE tasks for the kid(s), etc. If you take initiative but I don’t need your help I will thank you and say I’m cool. If you’re in doubt, you can always ask if I need something. (Favorite phrase: “Baby, do you need me to do anything?”

    And no, it’s not one sided. Women should reciprocate. And I do…

  • Guest

    This article is retarded,

    1. While everyone is mute, not talking is not growing up?!
    2. Sex is sex. Love is love. You want it fast at times slow at others.
    3. That is why you plan together, itinerary! If it aint my wedding you expect me to remember?!
    4. Not stepping in or out, nah this one has consequences, if it is another female or if she is close to a particular person you aint got squadly jack to say unless its some man being disrespectful.
    5. Men are a little different when it comes to being a caregiver unless its a child of his. If you need chicken noodle soup, ask for it. A man thoughts of sick is different from yours. We know aspirin, chicken noddle soup, head rub and blanket.
    6. I have no problems helping, but most of the time women want you out of the way.
    7. On the contrary, a man spending habits are not as bad as a woman’s, while you need fendi boots and versace glasses and DIAMONDS , I could get gas, better yet a car for those prices.

    • Rashe

      Nada on your last point. Men these days are just as materialistic as some of these “simple” women. Just look at all the brothas in the ghetto with sports cars and lawn furniture in their apartments. Chrome rims and can’t pay child support….

      • LaLaLaMeansILoveYou

        Amen to that. I’ll take your rims and add to it flat screens, a bigger, better home theater system than his buddies’, xbox/playstation and the newest (read: expensive) games to go with it, $200 Jordans,…I could go on all day with this.

        Men don’t spend less money than women, they just spend it on different things than we do. Nice try “guest”.

        Also, to “guest”…sex is NOT sex…there are different levels of expertise. From your response alone, I can tell that you never made it past “novice”.

        • GUEST

          Sounds like the local hood rat “boys” in every American ghetto. Maybe you should upgrade your dating pool. 

          • LaLaLaMeansILoveYou

            Really?? because the materialistic woman you described sounds just like the local hoodrat “girls” in every American ghetto. Maybe you should upgrade your dating pool :-/

            And btw, no need for me to upgrade…my HUSBAND of 6 years cannot be found anywhere on this list.

        • Guest

          Novice lol, no I know the difference between a ho and a lady ‘LaLaLaMeansILoveYou’. So you need to be passionate every time you doing the grownup?! GOH. Men are competitive by nature that is true I could by 5 pair of jordans to one pair of your boots. FLAT SCREENS =guest, famiily, friends….your diamons equals YOUR ears,neck and fingers.

          • LaLaLaMeansILoveYou

            All I will say is that the man who gave me his last name knows how to break it down each and EVERY time, yessss. But then I guess some men are just more gifted in certain areas than others. You know that phrase that men love to spit at women all the time, something like “whatever it took to GET them is what it’s going to take to KEEP them”?? Yeah he LIVES by that.

            And unless you’re in the habit of dating materialistic “I only wear Louboutins” females, then your 5:1 shoe ratio is a little off. More like WAY off. Try introducing your next gf to DSW. Designer shoes, warehouse prices. Their slogan not mine.

            • Guest

              No ruffling of the feathers here, no need for an intense debate on what it means to be “grown”. So you and your hubby don’t get in a lil sum int sum int before the kids get home from school? No feelings of passion for hot sex somewhere and a quickie? Congrats either way, you have found the one for you. What I’m saying is these lists of characteristics are far from kid like activities.

              Yes women spending patterns are different from men, I will give you that. A woman always got that ‘just in case’ stash. BUT, there are women who are attracted solely to a mans status, she is just as concerned with his rims if not MORE than he is. She thinks flashy is classy. What a man can buy her determines her security with him. Fortunately, you don’t seem to be among that type of woman. And I refuse to date a label slore when it only cost the designer 2 dollars to make the DAMN shoe. There is absolutely nothing wrong with nice things, but how much of it!