For the Proactive Woman: 7 Ways to Capture His Heart

November 24, 2011 ‐ By jaebi

Plenty of women agree that a husband-to-be should find you, instead of the other way around. Those ladies are happy to sit back and let a man assume control of her romantic destiny. Totally fine, but also just one way of going about things. A “laissez-faire” approach, if you will. If this is you, stop now. You won’t enjoy what you’re about to read. Because of that, you won’t learn anything. You’re just wasting your time. And you really shouldn’t. Time is too valuable. You’ve been warned.

If you’re not totally sold on the laissez-faire approach, you’re likely a proactive woman., so keep reading. These tips are for ladies ready to take their  romantic destinies to the next level.

"Black Barbarella"

A “true 22” lady is one of proaction. She wastes not and wants for little. Time is precious, and with cunning, voracity and charms, she claims all she needs. Wrapping the Right man around her finger is just a matter of time for this intelligent and ambitious woman. She takes risks and learns quickly from her own mistakes, but preferably those of others.

The next few tips are just accessories in her oversized shoulder bag. Like any accessory, they are details that empower her decision making. After all, it will be her choice to have a man, or not. Depending on her personality, she play the necessary fawn to lure a man to her forever embrace. But the first move is always hers to claim, and when presented with the right opportunity, she takes it.

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  • Moony

    We all know it is hard to be a proactive woman anyway. It’s like being a man. You take a chance and get shut down even if you are stunning or hot so it’s really a choice. Some women aren’t up to the challenge of picking and choosing in that way.

  • Moony

    Being a tease can be alluring, but sometimes it’s about being honest and working with a man who wants to work with you. After having the experience of being manipulated and trying to get others to do things my way, I realize no one like that -ish. No one likes to feel like they are being used or controlled. It’s simple. If I let him know I like him and he doesn’t want to get on board, I can’t force him. It’s best to just find someone who wants to be there for you instead of all these Jedi Mind Tricks.

  • paris

    rihanas awesome belair pad was trashed before she dumped it. it looks like she used it for a crack den. nobody does that much damage to a house unless some serious illegal partying was going on. shes a skan/. maybe her music is ok, but her? a walking virus

  • paris

    how in the name of everything sane did adam levine get named sexiest man ALIVE?????? for me, is is so unattractive, short, got a hot pocket on his face runs with ho*es, and is a ho* himself. jeeze, the standards have dropped to rock bottom

  • Shea

    Being corny?! Really? That’s the best you could do?


    *smuts and their tricks*



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  • Lis

    what the hell is a 22 lady

    • Jknewman09

      umm.. a ballerina?  (Get it?  TuTu….22?)  I agree.  This insults the men, too.  You really want to send your readers out to manipulate us?  I thought we were supposed to be straightforward and straight up.  I’d like to think that I get to date women because they are interested in building something, not because they are practicing their prey-capture technique.

  • Sugar_Spice

    Um maybe I am just off tonight but where did  the term “true 22” come from?

    • guest

      Right I thought I was the only one thinking that.

  • Goddess_sunshine33

    These are pick up tips NOT ways to be proactive in getting a man to love you. Take some time off to think about what you’re gonna write and stop insulting our intelligence

  • Redbonelicious

    These articles are terrible just stop it

  • L-Boogie

    One week it is proactive and then the next week it is desperate.  Really?