8 Ways You Know He’s TOO Needy

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November 1, 2011 ‐ By Julia Austin

"Man begging woman to stay"

Most relationship articles are geared towards getting more out of your man. Getting him to ask you more about your life—your family, your work, your day. Getting him to talk to you about his feelings. Getting him to be more generous in bed. You know all the signs that tell that a man still needs to learn to open up—to learn how to fuse his life with somebody else’s. But sometimes, the problem is of the opposite nature. Some guys only know how to fuse their life with somebody else’s. Some men need a woman in their life every second.  Maybe that sounds sort of nice. Sort of. But honestly…you’ll be seeking just as much advice on how to un-cling this guy from your arm, as you were on how to get more attention from the guy who barely scheduled you into his day. Here’s how you know if you’ve bagged (or been bagged by) a needy one.

 

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  • Mia

    What are signs of a writer who likes self centered thugs who will dog her out and treat her like a tramp because that’s all she’s used to? Just read this article chile…

  • JD Mac

    Thanks to that sentence this article has truly killed my hope in our societies moral values…

    • Mia

      Exactly! What a greasy tramp.

  • Max

    Parts of this article are definitely true, but at the same time i find it kind of funny since alot of my female friends complain about guys not being sensitive enough and then they still complain when they are.

  • Danzrs3

    Well I wish this had been published a year earlier…..

  • Tim

    STD Status: new feature on Facebook

  • Magkspam

    LOL ok so let me get this straight, looking someone in the eyes is too intimate when you’re …. having sex? Haha ok… if I know them well enough to share my body, I should know them well enough to look them in the eyes while we have sex. 

  • JANE

    My ex-boyfriend did about 60% of those things in the beginning of our relationship…needless to say, I ended up dumping him. I think that he only said and did all of those things just to “lock me down” in the beginning, because towards the end of our relationship he stopped caring altogether.

  • Hibernia86

    Aren’t most of these things that women do more than men?

  • David Gibler

    Typical; Women still don’t know what they want and men don’t know what to do. And you wonder why there aren’t any good men out there? We’ve quit trying. 

  • Mike

    Funny – this article is about pretty much every woman I’ve ever dated. I’m not saying it’s not frowned upon when women are too clingy, but when a man does it he’s dismissed almost immediately. I’m happy to have been raised in a culture that still has higher standards for men to follow than it has for women, but if someone doesn’t feel comfortable filling a particular set of shoes, well then in my opinion, he shouldn’t have to. This type of scrutiny is best directed at oneself.

  • Realnezz

    my favorite is #8–as if some dude who suggests you go to a weekly happy hour sometime is actually secretly plotting your marriage. this list is a mess!

  • Sotru

    Omg ive experienced all of the above….may seem harmless but RUN!!!!!! For your got damn life

  • sisi

    Best comment EVER!!

  • Ms. Kane

    rushing a relationship is rushing a bond that should grow slowly. neediness can also turn to possessiveness, jealousy, a need for control, aggression and violent tendencies. sometimes too much of something CAN be a bad thing. clearly, that might not be all needy men, but that will be my last needy man.

  • kim

    All of these things are fine but there is definitely a point when they really can be too much. If you don't understand this than you have not been with a needy man. Good for you. I think the only people that will get this are those who have. We all think we want these things until you get someone that goes overboard. Its stifling. We all need a little space.

  • Capote

    This whole article is BULLCRAP! These are things that women complain that men dont do enough. I garauntee you the woman that wrote this article is single as hell with no prospects, lol. According to this writer, men should only hit from the back… forget birthdays and anniversaries… avoid talking to your moms on the phone at all times… and after we nut in bed, jump up and go hang with our friends so we dont seem like we're blowing them off, lol

    • David Gibler

      You nailed it dude. All of these are on a “How to tell you’ve found the perfect man” list somewhere.

    • juice

      Or we can just close our eyes and pretend we’re banging Megan Fox, call her another name “by accident”, call your boys afterwards like YEAH I JUST SMASHES, I’LL MEET Y’ALL AT THE STRIP CLUB IN A HALF AN HOUR and watch. Next day well be reading an article on Signs you’re dating a scumbag

  • taylor g

    i so don't mind any of these. lol

  • Kimmie

    THIS LIST IS ABOUT NEEDY GUYS U JUST MET…NOT FOR A GUY UR IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH ALREADY…READ PPL

  • Keith

    Wow deep but true it some areas when I read this I can all most call my self a needy guy so is that a good thinng or is it a bad thing cause from what I can see in my life its mind blowing an also shocking to some.

  • Louise

    I must agree with several posters. The person who wrote this article does not seem to have it all together in the relationship/intimacy department. Get your life in order before unintentionally misleading others. (BTW, I am a happily-married 22 year old.)

    • kayla

      completely agree. The author sounds like she’d rather have a friend-with-benefits than a serious, long-term relationship.

  • Chris

    There should be a law againts people giving relationship advice online unless you have a degree in a related field! the author doesn't have a clue!

  • Snooper

    I once dated a guy like this and it was a very nice change coming out of a verbally abusive relationship. I enjoyed the time, attention, lovemaking and vacations – however, it was a real let down when I found out he was married!

  • MsT

    I must disagree with #3. I dated 2 men who insisted I open my eyes and look at them while we made love and they were 2 of the best lovers I've ever had in my life. They weren't needy; they were HOT.

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  • Candy

    Pleasing me in bed, maintaining eye contact, and remembering things is too needy? Maybe you shouldn't sleep with guys after only 2 dates if that stuff is creeping you out. Seriously, take it a little slower. Any guys reading this, it is DEFINITELY ok to please your woman for hours and a good idea to remember everything. She remembers everything you do.

  • Lee Moulton

    YA KNOW…if both people spent this much time being attentive to one another, you'd think life would be good.

  • tamichic

    Number 8 happened to me…I mentioned to a guy I had been dating for only 1 month that I needed a vacation. He went online while at my house and booked us a cruise. Glad he did because being on a ship with him for 5 days showed me A LOT. Had a great time though!

  • Steve

    Im sorry, as a guy I hear what your saying but from my experiences from working with women professionally and in my personal life a man always has to be on the watch for the nuances of women. Hence women thinking guys are needy. Maybe the guy you paint finds it easier to understand women this way. But I do agree, most men and women need separate lives. I have however heard people say that the sex is always never ending. But men are physical and visual. If he's putting in the work….deal with it. MANY women complain that the guy doesn't do enough. And finally no one meets my mother until a year later. No need to get her feelings worked up.

    And yes I know this is a ladies site and yes I have things to do. But I like to hear all sides to a story and some where between everyones lies and opinions lays the truth.

    • homie

      It's a ladies site but I like to hear the man's point of view.
      Men are very smart creatures. You never know one day
      yout mother might meet your girl in 6 months.

  • lisha

    LMAO!! I have dated crap for a long time and I just met this really needy guy, and he is driving nuts!! This is not going to work,its funny that I came across this article!!

    • tamichic

      I agree with you. They don't understand the need to have time to yourself.

  • Lee Moulton

    This is crap except for the interrogating friends part. All the other stuff seems to be the things women want…Eye contact, open communication, wanting the man to be selfless, etc.

  • Anna Renee

    I married one too, but he tried to act like he wasn't needy.

  • sweettea

    Yikes i married a needy guy. Thats ok he’s still really sweet but it took years for us to develope seperate lives

  • tonyo

    Lol @ eye contact being too intimate during sex!

  • msknowitall

    Lol I’ve never dated a needy guy . All the knuckleheads I’ve dated have been selfish . I don’t know, a needy guy doesn’t sound too bad compared to the crap I’ve dated.

    • homie

      I agree 500% the needy guy sounds good to me, and having a big
      wallet would frost the cake.

  • WhamBam!

    I will not complain if a guy wants to please me all night long. That is not such a bad thing. Some men just think of themselves in the bedroom. Just saying.

    • Maya The Bee

      Amen to that!

    • Opinionated4Days

      I “Feel” ya (lol) but the lady has a point. When a man who doesn’t know (the female) is excessively generous with certain (i.e. oral) sexual favors; he DOES tend to act like the accomplishment of multiple and sustained orgasms delegates (the female) as “Signed, Sealed, Delivered” insta-property of his. That’s where excessive phone calls and random pop-ups are unfortunately sure to follow. Question the weirdo, and the first thing he wants to do is remind (the female) “That Ain’t What You Said When You Let Me…….”. Say it ain’t so!